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July 24, 2024

Personal Reflections, Political Shifts, and Preparing for Parenthood 211

Personal Reflections, Political Shifts, and Preparing for Parenthood 211

What happens when you embrace vulnerability and turn your struggles into stories of empowerment? This week on the Loud, Proud American podcast, we reflect on the transformative power of sharing personal experiences, fears, and hopes. With 211 weeks under our belt, we celebrate the close-knit, supportive community we've built and welcome new listeners to join our journey. Our candid conversations touch on the importance of openness and the strength found in facing uncomfortable truths together.

Switching gears, we delve into the current political climate, discussing the early presidential debates, media shifts, and Joe Biden's planned exit from the race. We also share our personal journey, filled with the joys and anxieties of expecting a new child, as the due date draws near. This episode paints a vivid picture of our multifaceted lives, blending public discourse with intimate reflections on parenthood and the future we are shaping for our children.

Rounding out the episode, we highlight tales of resilience, community, and the balancing act of family and business. From attending local festivals to sharing poignant moments of childhood lessons and unexpected reunions, our stories underscore the interconnectedness of our lives. We also touch on the importance of accountability in relationships and the gratitude we feel for the support of our listeners. Join us as we navigate the highs and lows, celebrating the American spirit and the journey of shared struggles and growth.

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Chapters

00:02 - Share the Struggles Podcast Update

04:33 - Political Scheme Threatens Democracy

14:09 - Preparing for Parenthood

27:44 - Lessons in Resilience and Growth

36:43 - A Hardworking Inspiration

44:36 - Family Dynamics and Business Adjustments

55:57 - Appreciation and Accountability in Relationships

01:01:05 - American Dream Podcast Promotion

Transcript
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Politicians and media continue to lie, while us loud, proud Americans continue to try.

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Try to build a brand and prepare to be parents for the very first time.

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This week is a political, I told you so a brand update and a due date.

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Let me tell you something Everybody struggles.

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The difference is some people choose to go through it and some choose to grow through it.

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The choice is completely yours.

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Which one you choose will have a very profound effect on the way you live your life.

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If you find strength in the struggle, then this podcast is for you.

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If you have a relationship that is comfortable with uncomfortable conversations, uncomfortable conversations challenge you, humble you and they build you.

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When you sprinkle a little time and distance on it, it all makes sense.

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Most disagreements they stem from our own insecurities.

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You are right where you need to be Back on time.

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We can fight for us.

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We all take on what we're behind the whole day, gone from the fight Too fast and way too fast.

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Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh.

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What it do, what it diddly diddly do.

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Ha diggity.

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Damn, am I so excited to be back with you.

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How do you do, baby boo?

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Oh, I miss you.

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Oh, it's true, it's damn true.

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Wow, episode 211.

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As in 7-11, but with a 2 for 200.

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Because it's 211.

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With a 2 for 200, because it's 211, 211 consecutive weeks of the Loud, proud American podcast, properly, precisely, beautifully, perfectly named Share the Struggle.

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Because everybody struggles.

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And the truth is, if we are willing to share our struggles, if we have the ability to be transparent, share our struggles, if we have the ability to be transparent, to be vulnerable and to share our stories, to express our feelings, our emotions, our fears, our hopes, our desires, whatever it is that's right there in front of us, the stuff that we are struggling with, those things that we are growing through going through having the ability and the courage to say it, to express it, to share it, will provide strength, not only for the person that is being vulnerable, not only for the person that is sharing their story, but for anybody that's listening, because there is strength and safety in numbers, and that is the reason why we have been growing our numbers, week after week after week, 211 consecutive weeks to be precise.

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We gather here each and every week to share our stories, our fears, our hopes and our desires.

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And because of each and every one of you that continue to come back week to week, we continue on this spiritual road to Valhalla.

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Oh, I'm feeling kind of feisty, I'm feeling just a little bit spicy.

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To all my day ones out there, to all my original ones, to my OGs, the down and dirties that have been here since we went live 210 episodes ago, get your ones ones up.

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I acknowledge you, I appreciate you and I thank you.

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And to all of you that are tuning in for the very first time, I welcome you and I appreciate you and I truly hope that you, that you, stick around here.

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I truly hope that you join this, this positive tribe and this positive vibe that we are building, because I do believe we have something special.

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Don't forget to find all things podcast related over to wwwsharethestrugglepodcastcom.

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That's the infomercial portion of the day, right out the way, Just getting it done, putting it out there.

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Man, week to week things change.

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Week to week things evolve, right.

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We really always have that, what I like to call a raw, real-time response to life and all things life.

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So over the past few weeks we've had some political undertones and we're going to get into some of those things.

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Over the past month we've really kind of walked the line on business and brand a little bit.

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And if you widen that search a little and you start looking a few months back, my wife was here on the podcast and we were talking about our little one and the journey and it doesn't seem like it was all that long ago that we made the announcement that we were expecting and all those things are really starting to come to a boil here.

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All those things are really picking to come to a boil here.

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All those things are really picking up a head of steam here.

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That's kind of the well-rounded road trip we're going to go on today because I just want to touch base on all three of those things.

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The political stuff just continues to heat up.

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The business stuff is happening.

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We are in the middle of a quick little break between our road trips and all the craziness.

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I made some adjustments to my schedule that I want to make you all aware of and it seems like it wasn't that long ago that we were announcing we were expecting and hot damn that little D-Day, that due date, that date is quickly, fastly, aggressively approaching.

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Go time, man, am I in a world of panic?

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Let's just take that three-slice pie we were just talking about.

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Okay, imagine just a little mini pie.

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We're going to cut that sucker into thirds right.

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One-third, two-third, three-third.

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You know what I'm saying.

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Y'all know what I was doing there.

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The way of the world, the political stuff, that's one-third right.

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Think about all the crazy shit that's happening in this country right now.

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That right.

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There is enough to cloud your judgment and to send fears and hopes and despairs all in a run amok, right?

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Let's be honest, it seems like things are ever evolving and constantly changing and I'm not going to spend all day on this political stuff, but I am just going to say I believe I told you so when we had the first presidential debate, and it happened so early and it seemed like for the first time the Democrats just let their beloved golden boy go out there without help.

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They put him out there on the island, without cue cards, without wireless headsets, you know, without knowing the answers to the test.

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They let him go out there and they let him make a fool of himself.

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That was all by plan.

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They then had the time to turn the population that was still with him against him.

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For the first time, mainstream media turned against him, started to call for him to pull himself out of the race, started to make fun of all the blunders that he's been making, all those crazy things that he's been doing that they have turned another cheat to this entire time.

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Think about this he's doing the same shit today that he was doing on the first day.

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But now you want to acknowledge it today because you have a new agenda, because you have a new motive today.

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So we're going to acknowledge it.

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We're going to pull out and point out all the mistakes, all the failures, all the fuck ups, all the mess ups, the goof ups, all the uncomfortable stuff that he does.

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We're going to put all Biden's woes out there for everyone to see.

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We're going to call into question his health and all these things that the rest of us have been saying the entire time.

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This has been a setup, this has been a hoax.

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This has been a coup.

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How do you do?

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Okay, we all knew that he was not going to run.

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That's the reason why the debate happened so early.

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That's the reason why the debate happened so early.

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That's the reason why the media turned on him.

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That's the reason why his party turned on him.

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They set the bait and they pulled the trap.

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He decided air quotes.

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He decided meaning.

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They told him to meaning.

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He did what he had to do, which is, I really feel, like the common trend of this entire presidency.

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He's just been the puppet out in front of everybody while they're pulling the strings behind him.

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This is what I need everybody to understand.

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We're not going to stay on political nonsense today, but over the past few weeks, I think we've pointed out a few things, and one of the most important things is democracy.

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If you want a true, fair democracy, there's some things that we need to have happen.

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We need US citizens to vote.

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We need the ability to make sure it's only US citizens voting.

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We didn't open the doors to let in 10 million people to give them access to vote.

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We were to let in 10 million people to give them access to vote.

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We were misled, we were lied to, we were abused, we were used.

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This country was lied to.

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They let all these people in and they are working on giving them the ability to vote to steal another election.

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That is how we create a one party dictatorship.

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You understand we're pointing out these red flags If we start talking about what happened.

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And you look at last week's episode when we're recapping what happened in Pennsylvania how a hero lost his life, how Corey lost his life, they're protecting his family, our president nearly assassinated in front of live TV.

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There's no way that that's not an inside job.

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If anybody had any opportunity to watch some of the questioning for the head of the CIA, what an absolute joke.

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There's more that's going to come out about this if it is allowed to come out, because right now things are just getting swept under the rug.

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But this is an inside job.

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This is a cue.

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This has all been a part of their master plan.

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One chapter in that book, in that master plan, was just unleashed on the public yet again Joe Biden stepping out of the election race, making the decision.

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Air quotes that he needs to step out, that this is the time to unify his Democratic Party, to let Kamala Harris run and he's no longer fit for the job.

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That America's going to be in better hands with somebody else.

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That he understands the things that are going on and that he's aging.

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Here's the thing.

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If he's going to make these statements, these admissions, why the hell is he still the president?

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Okay, why can he be not fit to run for re-election but be fit enough to continue to sink the ship?

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Biden, we knew four years ago you weren't fit.

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I just have gotten tired of trying to make excuses and exceptions for the people that voted for you and decided that somehow, someway, by a miracle unknowns to man, you were fit, which clearly you weren't.

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But now that he's making that admission, why the hell is he still our president?

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Just putting it out there.

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But let me get back to the point and the task at hand and what it is that I want to drive home for everybody.

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This is one more attempt at a one-party run government.

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This is another attempt at dictatorship in this country.

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Let me explain to you, for those people out there that are arguing or making outlandish statements that Donald Trump is a threat to democracy, those people are a joke, because Democrats themselves, the political party, is in fact a threat to democracy.

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Democrats erased the entire primary system to replace a presidential candidate.

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The power of the voters was taken away.

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The Democrats staged an actual insurrection.

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Think about this.

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Why are we not talking about this?

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The American people had the opportunity.

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Whether you were Republican or Democrat, you had the opportunity to vote and elect your party's representative to run for president.

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The Republicans resoundingly elected, nominated voted for Donald J Trump elected, nominated voted for Donald J Trump.

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The Democrats resoundingly voted for Joe Biden to run on their behalf.

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What has happened here, america?

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They have the early debate.

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He comes out, he gets destroyed.

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They drag him in the media and he pulls himself out of the race.

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What does that result in?

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That results in the ability of 3,000 elite or so Democrats to make the decision, on behalf of all of America's Democrats, that Harris is your presidential candidate.

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That's the direction they're headed.

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Biden says this is what we're going to do, and all the crickets have jumped on board to say this is what we're going to do, jumped on board to say this is what we're going to do.

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America, I'm talking to all of you Americans that are Democrats.

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Did you realize that your own party just said we don't give a flying hoot about what you think?

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Y'all spent all this time going to the polls, sitting up, watching the news, looking for the results, hoping and pulling and praying for those results.

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News looking for the results, hoping and polling and praying for those results.

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Y'all put your time and effort into a primary.

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We don't give a shit about that primary.

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We don't give a shit about your opinion.

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We don't give a shit about your vote.

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Instead, after the primaries have been settled, we're going to take the power away from the people, put it back in the hands of the elites the Democrat elites and they're going to make a decision on who you get to vote for Not who you want to vote for, but who you get to vote for.

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That folks is an insurrection.

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That folks is a one-party dictatorship.

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Open your eyes.

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If you're a Democrat and you're listening to this and you're getting mad at me right now, I want you to understand.

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I'm just trying to open your eyes to something right now.

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Maybe Donald Trump isn't your fan favorite, but guess what?

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He is fighting for democracy.

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The Democrats are saying you don't have a choice.

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You need to vote for whoever it is we nominate.

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We don't care about your votes, you don't have a chance.

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I'm here to tell you you do have a chance.

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It's time to put a middle finger in the face of the establishment.

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You need to vote for Donald Trump, because any vote not for Trump is a vote against America.

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We have one option to save this country, and it is becoming abundantly clear.

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This is the only way we can go Gotcha Spin around and tackle so much more than that.

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The greatest kick in this mind is business for the kids.

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All right, all right, all right.

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Appreciate y'all for hanging in there with me.

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I apologize, for I think we've got three weeks of some political talk in there, but it's important, man.

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This is life-altering changes, right?

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These are heck, man.

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These decisions impact the world.

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Right, we need to be the world's leader and, with the chaos and the craziness that's happening, america's in jeopardy, with the chaos and the craziness that's happening, america's in jeopardy.

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These topics are so important because the future of this country and the future for our families, it's all in our hands right now.

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So we need to continue, occasionally, just to call the nonsense out on the carpet here and just to have some heartfelt, honest conversations, and that's what we're here to do.

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It's never been more important in my eyes selfishly to get America on track, because, for the first time, I'm about to be a parent, and this is something that I didn't really ever really know was going to happen, right?

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I mean, I guess nobody ever really knows for sure if they're going to be a parent.

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I mean, I guess nobody ever really knows for sure if they're going to be a parent.

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But some people just live their life with a greater desire to become a parent, and for me.

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I spent a great portion of my life not thinking that I ever wanted to be or knowing that I definitely wasn't ready to be.

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When I made the decision that I wanted to bring a child into this world, I began to look at this world through a different lens and start to worry about what we're going to leave behind, what we're going to leave for our children, how we're going to raise our children.

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So those things just make every topic a little more critical for me, and it's something that I spend a little more time analyzing, because I'm just worried about the future for little Paisley Reign and for anybody else out there.

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That's raising children.

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Right, and to be honest here, folks, this happens long before.

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If you're in my shoes and you're about to have a newborn, long before they're old enough to be making these decisions and being affected by the world.

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It's going to affect all of us, right?

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Think about the changes that's happened, the negative things that have happened in this country in the past four years.

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Those are the things that get you a little bit scared and nervous.

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But I'm looking at those things through a different lens because I'm about to be a dad.

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The day I'm recording this podcast is July 23rd, it's going to drop on a winning Wednesday, july 24th, and I'm just really a few short months away from being a dad.

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Our due date is September 15th and today we had another ultrasound.

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And today was one of those appointments where things just feel really real.

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Not to put those two things together, it's really real.

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It just doesn't sound right together.

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I don't know why it makes me just sound like an idiot, but today things just felt real.

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And, knowing that I had the appointment today to see Little Paisley, I pushed off recording the podcast until after the appointment Because I knew that I was going to feel a certain way.

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I knew there were some things that would happen at this appointment that would put life and philosophies and opinions and thoughts in a different perspective.

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Because here I am not being a dad, never being a dad about to be a dad.

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And when you come out of one of those appointments, one of those appointments where you actually get to see your child, when you actually get a little visual of what your wife was cooking in there, like what's you know, are we burning the turkey here?

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Okay, like are we going Christmas vacation on the turkey or is she looking good?

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So I knew today was going to be one of those days because I was going to actually get a visual and, based off of the fact that we're only a couple months out, I could really get a good glimpse of what my future is going to look like, what my baby is going to look like and man.

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Does that make things feel a little real.

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Baby's going to look like and man does that make things feel a little real man.

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It's one of those things where you're excited.

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You're so excited to finally get to see her, to meet her, to welcome her.

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You're also nervous because you're completely unprepared to be a dad, because I don't really know how to study up on being a dad, although I did get some amazing advice from a complete stranger over the weekend and this is going to kind of connect the dots on what we've been up to.

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Last weekend I was in Sebago Sebago Elementary School and we were there for Sebago Days.

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It's like a three-day little festival with fireworks and stuff, kind of a small little fair Not really a fair because they don't have animals, but they have like a midway with carnival games and vendors and entertainment and stuff like that and nice, beautiful little location and we got to meet some great people.

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It was a little slower than we hoped for, I'm going to be honest.

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Literally it feels like you spend three days waiting for three hours, and what I mean by that is you're there for three days and for all but three hours of those three days is really quiet, really slow, but in those three or so hours you make all the money you would make in the entire weekend.

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It's kind of kind of strange.

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But I had a cool moment happen.

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We had, um, a customer come in.

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I was actually able to park the loud, proud american express right behind the tent.

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So I was in the bus getting some inventory and my wife was in the tent and I heard somebody come in and start talking to her and say that we were recommended to him by a couple of friends, that he just bought a camper and he met these people and they were talking to him because he was wearing something patriotic and he's just a big Second Amendment guy.

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Him and his son go to like shooting competitions together and his oldest son does jiu-jitsu competitions and the whole family just really competitions together and his oldest son does jiu-jitsu competitions and the whole family just really sticks together.

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And he was telling my wife that he met some mutual friends of ours that were telling him hey, you need to know Loud Proud American.

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Like, have you ever heard of Loud Proud American?

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Do you have any of their stuff?

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If you've seen him, do you know about them?

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And he had no clue.

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And they gave him a little education about who we are and what we do and what we stand for.

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And then he was trying to find us on the internet and he said he finally located our website last night, the night before I'm seeing him.

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And he said here I am walking into this festival and I look right across the way and there you are, there's the tent, like my friends have been telling me about this person, this brand, this mission, and here you guys are, man Number one.

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What are the freaking odds on that?

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Okay, that's God's timing, right there, right.

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So I come out of the bus and I meet him and I shake his hand and try to introduce myself to the family and we just kind of hit it off and shoot the shit.

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And he actually, as he was cashing out, he pulled my business card out of his wallet and he said see, right here.

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I told you they gave me this card.

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I've been looking for you guys and, uh, I looked you up last night on the internet and today, here you are, like this is just meant to be.

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And while he was talking to us in conversation, uh, my wife had told him that you know we are expecting and that in a couple of months we're gonna have a little one, and he was so excited for us and I wish I could remember his name off the top of my head, but I I can't.

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I feel like a complete jerk, because he was a great guy and they had a great family and yeah.

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So it was just really cool.

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It was one of those moments where you kind of have to like pinch yourself a little bit because you're.

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Number one, the timing of the whole thing is incredible.

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Number two, the fact that somebody thinks enough about our brand to recommend us and to have conviction in recommending us and saying, hey, these people, these are your people, this brand is something that you can stand for.

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That just shows me that we're doing the right things.

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That just shows me that this mission has a reason.

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It shows me that everybody's responding to what we're doing and we're on the cusp of this really going somewhere.

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Everybody's responding to what we're doing and we're on the cusp of this really going somewhere, so all those like pinch yourself moments coming to fruition right there.

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But as my wife was talking to him about us about to become parents and he asked if it was our first, he said if I can give you any advice, it's this to be present, present, just always be present, just to show up and show them your highest of highs and your lowest of lows and explain to them your reason why, man, I'm about to be a dad, cluelueless about being a dad, receptive to all information about being a dad.

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So that information, those clues, those tidbits, that knowledge, that shit hit, that hit different, that one landed.

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You sunk my battleship with that one.

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Just show up, be present, right?

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Which?

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That's one of the things that many people have said to me.

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Hey, man, just show up, be present, right?

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Which that's one of the things that many people have said to me.

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Hey, man, just show up, just be there, just be present.

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And I've seen videos of little kids that are at like a dance recital or a sporting event or, you know, a class project, a spelling bee, and they're looking through the crowd and when they see their parents, they just light up.

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And that's some of the stuff that I think about when they say just to be there, you know, but it's, it's more than that.

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But those are some of the things that I think about.

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But when he gave me the advice of showing them your highest of highs and your lowest of lows and then explaining it to them, the reasons why that made so much sense to me, because far too often we try to hide things from people.

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Right, think about social media.

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We're only going to put on Instagram and Facebook what we want people to see about our lives.

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Unless we're crazy and we're looking for attention, we're only going to put on social media what we want people to know about us, what we want people to think about us.

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We want people to imagine our lives are like they're always filter-fueled posts and photos and nonsense.

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Right, you get to edit things, you get to put the filter on.

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You get to manipulate the photo to make it as perfect as possible.

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You can spend 25 minutes writing a subject to make sure that everything lands perfect, that it hits precisely, so people can look at that and go, wow, aren't they just living it up?

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Aren't they just living the American dream.

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We have been trained to just put out the best version of ourselves, to only show people what we want them to know, which there's a lot of value in not airing out your dirty laundry, but what I'm getting at here is there's a lot of value in not airing out your dirty laundry, but what I'm getting at here is there's times where we need to be honest In life.

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We need to be transparent, we need to be vulnerable, and if we go through life hiding from the people we care about hiding the truth, that's how we wind up in trouble, because that's why this country has a major opioid epidemic and that we have the high suicide rates that we have.

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We have all these different violence and abuse things that we have Because people aren't willing to talk, people aren't willing to be transparent, people aren't willing to share their feelings.

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We would rather live behind the filter.

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We would rather tell everybody we're okay, even if we're not okay, because we don't seem tough, we seem weak.

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Tell everybody we're okay, even if we're not okay, because we don't seem tough, we seem weak if we share our feelings.

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Listening to that advice made me realize how important it is for me to share with little Paisley Rain, the ups and the downs, to let her know that not every day is a great day.

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But if you pick yourself up and you dust yourself off and you keep on going, that you can make tomorrow a great day.

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That, no matter how low the valleys, is the promise of the peaks.

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That whatever it is in this world that we want we can have, as long as we're willing to put in the work.

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But even when we are willing to put in the work and we do put in the work and we strive and we strive and we push and we claw we don't always make it there.

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Things don't always go our way.

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The slipper doesn't always fit.

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You don't always kiss the frog and get the damn prince.

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But you can't make excuses.

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You have to continue to fight.

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Hearing that message from him just had a just a whirlwind of thoughts, like, literally, I was drinking from a garden hose of thoughts when I heard this, because I thought about myself as a child and the fact that I remember the highest of highs with my parents and I remember them sitting me down and telling me the lowest of lows.

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I remember my parents telling me the lowest of lows.

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I remember my parents telling me the IRS wants to take our house.

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The IRS is looking to take every single thing we own, that times are going to be tough, that we're going to lose a lot of things, but we're going to keep the most important things, that we're going to have to deal with some tough times and some struggles.

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We're not going to always get the things that we want, but we're going to have the things that we need because we are going to fight to keep what we have, to hold on to what's important and what matters most.

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I remember the peaks and my parents explained the valleys and I remember climbing out of that valley and reaching a new peak, and the fact that my parents communicated with me every step of the way instilled values in me.

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It taught me accountability, it taught me hard work, it taught me communication and transparency all the things that are the reasons why I continue to turn a microphone on week after week, because I am not ashamed.

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I am not afraid to come on here and to turn on a microphone, and if it's celebrating a victory or it's crying my eyes out in fear, whatever it is, the message is clear I'm not going to go through it.

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I'm going to grow through it and if I can talk my way through it then we can all grow through it.

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Hearing that man's message just put a new perspective in me for the way I need to be with little Paisley man.

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Everything about that interaction was God's plan and God's timing, because if I think about all these steps that went into that message landing on me, when you trace the tracks of that message, it's pretty remarkable.

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Think about it.

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It takes a person going in to buy a camper, meeting somebody, him wearing something that triggers a conversation about the Second Amendment, that triggers a conversation about pro-America.

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That then triggers a conversation about our brand.

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The fact that the person that's having the conversation about our brand is in possession of one of our business cards, hands it over and preaches the power of our brand and the mission and the task at hand.

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That person is then curious enough to seek us out on the internet, looks to find us, told me he landed on a few sites that weren't ours, that he appreciated, that he would have appreciated not landing on, and then the fact that that curiosity is there and then he's searching and seeking us out and he just happens to go for a night out with the family to a free festival, and we just happened to be at that festival for the very first time.

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Because I've never been at this festival.

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It was never on my radar.

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I didn't think about this festival, but last year the organizer of that festival approached me at a fair and asked me if I would go.

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He asked me if I would be there.

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So start to think about that pebble in the ocean there.

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So start to think about that pebble in the ocean.

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It took Carl, the president of this festival, reaching out to me over a year ago asking me if I would be interested in attending this festival.

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Somebody that I've made a relationship with, that believes in our brand, having a business card in their pocket and a willingness to reach out to somebody, to make a friend and to suggest our brand that information just literally resonating with the person receiving it enough to look into us and then them make the decision to go to this festival.

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All those things needed to happen for him just to arrive in our tent and then, at that point, it's about us being the genuine people.

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We are opening up and having a conversation.

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Because of that conversation, we landed on some key information, some life advice and a conversation that I will never forget.

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Those things don't just happen, they are destined to happen.

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They are put in place to happen.

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That's how I feel about this life and this road that I am on.

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That gives me the strength and the courage to continue on, mixing in a little business and a little family.

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I'll give you a recap on some of the things that we've been up to.

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Sebago Days, that festival that just wrapped up.

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It was a fun festival.

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I got to spend a lot of time with Matt Perkins from Ledgeway.

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We camped together the whole time.

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My mom was able to work with me for a day, my wife for a few days.

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I got to see some of the extended vendor fam the Pet and Gills came out and spent some time.

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Kyle and Julia from Underdog.

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What was so refreshing about this event was the fact that it's a place I'd never been and it's a place that I didn't think I would know many people, when in fact I knew tons of people.

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I had the opportunity to spend a few hours over the course of the weekend with one of my best friends in the world, somebody that I asked to be in my wedding to walk by my side my brother from another mother, mr Nate Terrio.

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I got to catch up with him and his family and that was just such a fulfilling thing because we don't really get the time and opportunity to to spend with each other once a year.

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We see each other at the Freiburg fair in October and then we do the best we can to try to have conversations when we can over the phone.

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You know I was.

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I called him to tell him that.

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You know that we were pregnant back in the day.

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You know like I remember having a conversation with him which seems just like yesterday, saying, hey, you know, I'm going to be a dad, and sharing that with him before we're going public with it, and then seeing him just a couple months before a little Paisley arrives.

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All these things were just such a good feeling, right, just such a positive thing that I didn't expect from this event.

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As far as the numbers go, it wasn't a, you know, magical event.

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It wasn't something to write home about and, to be honest, it's something that I'll have to discuss and decide and think about whether I'm going to go back next year or if I'm going to put something else on my calendar, on my schedule.

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But it wasn't a flop.

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We made money.

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Saturday was a great day for us.

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It was a very successful day for us.

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Overall, the event was a success.

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We were able to pay some bills and buy some product and get our product out into the hands of new people that have never met us before, never seen us before.

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I wouldn't have had the conversation I just had if I didn't go to this event.

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So all in all, it was a success.

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I'm thankful for the event.

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The only reason why I'm questioning the event is because, with the expected arrival of Miss Paisley and all the events that I've been doing, I'm starting to reframe and reshape in my mind how I want to attack this business and how I want to grow this business.

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With that said, I'm going to connect the dots here to the previous event.

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We were at the Osprey Valley Fair and last week's episode I mentioned to you the attempted assassination that happened.

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That all happened at the fair and, to be honest, I think it took the wind out of the sails of the fair and it certainly did for us as a family, thinking about what just happened, what could have happened and you know what could have happened to this country when that news broke during the fair, the whole complexity of the fair changed, in my opinion, because that fair is Thursday, friday, saturday, sunday.

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On Thursday we beat last year, we almost doubled the year before.

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On Friday we had the single best Friday that we have ever had at that fair in all the years that we've been going to that fair.

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So we were trending in an incredibly positive direction.

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On Saturday we started off strong and we were trending towards really just making back all that we had lost in the previous year.

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We were having a great day.

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And then when that news traveled, when I was told that, you know, president Trump was shot at, that news traveled through an entire polling ring and the whole complexity and the whole energy of that fair changed and then it just, it just quieted out, it just petered out.

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So many people went home.

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I think a lot of folks just went home and turned on the news and they wanted to be with their families.

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They were afraid of what could happen, what might happen, what could have happened, what would have happened, and those people that were planning on coming out when that news broke, I think they just stayed home and that trickled into Sunday.

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So Saturday we were down from last year Sunday.

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We were down from last year but because we started off so strong, we actually gained a few bucks this year over last year.

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Nothing to write home about, nothing to you know, buy cards on a balloon over but we did see some growth from the previous year and I do truly feel like we would have seen quite a bit more growth if those things didn't happen.

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So, all in all, we've backed up a couple of events that I feel I can chalk up as successful.

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Yeah, and it was a busy stretch that we've been on and a grateful stretch that I've been on.

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We were able to take the Loud Proud American Express out for its first couple of events, been able to log some miles with the bus, and that seems to be working out great.

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It's going to be going back to the shop to continue its improvements.

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We're able to meet some great people, reconnect with folks we haven't seen people reconnect with folks we haven't seen, and really just the hospitality and generosity of all the folks that we've met all along the way.

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It just made a massive difference, and in saying that, I keep thinking about two people out there that don't listen to the podcast but have become friends of ours through Matt and Sarah at Ledgeway Farm, and that's Jim and Heidi.

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They actually are quite involved with the Osprey Valley Fair and two just great hard working people and they opened up their homes to me and Matt.

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We were able to bring our campers over to their house from leaving Osprey, we just ran the campers to their house.

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I came home, did some more work for a couple of days, then returned to the event and were able to stay there for the weekend and so thankful for that.

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It's just a nice close location, saved us some money on camping, you know, and just made the whole trip feasible, because if I was paying for camping somewhere I might not have actually made this trip be all that beneficial.

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So to Jim and Heidi I really just want to say thank you and that I appreciate the hospitality and the generosity and I learned a little something about Jim over the weekend Because I learned that he is the hardest working man I have seen.

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So it's my father Like.

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He is such a hardworking individual that's inspiring.

00:39:52.623 --> 00:39:54.346
Um, it's.

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I'm just going to put this out there to you.

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So Jim and Heidi are heavily involved in the fair.

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Heidi does a four H stuff and Jim does a lot of things at the fair.

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Um, they have their own animals there and they're helping with events there and all these things.

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So Sunday night when the fair is over at six o'clock, jim has to make four trips from his fair location his campsite to home, back and forth, right, at least four trips.

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Matt was able to pitch in and help him and haul a few loads back and forth and I got to say their house from there is going to be 30, 40 minutes away.

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He has to haul the camper, he has to haul the golf cart, he has to haul the animals, he has to haul the equipment and do all these different things.

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So usually he's doing all those things and he gets done around 12, 1 o'clock.

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So we were packing up our vendor spot and took a shower and we went back to camp and Matt came over and we were just kind of hanging out making a game plan for the morning and he was telling me that you know him and Jim just got done hauling stuff and it must have been, I don't know, 11, 12 o'clock, I don't know.

00:40:56.063 --> 00:41:02.023
Matt goes outside to go to his camp and he hears a tractor running and over there's Jim cleaning out all the stalls.

00:41:02.023 --> 00:41:13.460
So he goes over and helps him clean out the stalls and and and I think Jim said he went to bed at like I don't know three, four o'clock in the morning or something, and then he had to get up and go work the next day.

00:41:13.460 --> 00:41:17.451
Impressive stuff, right, and you could leave it at that.

00:41:17.451 --> 00:41:22.769
But that's not where it stops, because he just continues on that pattern of just working and doing those things.

00:41:22.769 --> 00:41:29.101
There was one evening where he just gets out of work, comes over to see me and Matt at the fair.

00:41:29.101 --> 00:41:31.987
He's dressed in his work clothes, he goes home.

00:41:32.688 --> 00:41:35.313
We get to his house at about 1030 at night.

00:41:35.313 --> 00:41:36.443
I think it was Thursday night.

00:41:36.443 --> 00:41:47.826
When we pull in, he's outside still on his work uniform and he had just finished digging a trench and running two power lines so Matt and I could be connected to dedicated power.

00:41:47.826 --> 00:41:51.786
He put in a 20 amp and a 30 amp service right at our campsite.

00:41:51.786 --> 00:42:01.260
Think about this this dude gets up at the ass crack of dawn, works all day, then goes home, hand, digs a freaking trench and runs power.

00:42:01.260 --> 00:42:03.724
So the two of us have power at our campsite.

00:42:03.724 --> 00:42:14.813
He's burying it all over and going into bed at around 11 o'clock at night, still in his work uniform, okay, the next day he has all this stuff to do.

00:42:14.813 --> 00:42:17.326
It drives all around the frigging state doing whatever.

00:42:17.987 --> 00:42:28.971
We get to his house at whatever time, it is 10, 11 o'clock at night and he's outside with a fire going and burgers on the grill cooking dinner for us.

00:42:28.971 --> 00:42:31.373
I don't get it.

00:42:31.373 --> 00:42:32.275
I don't get it, man.

00:42:32.275 --> 00:42:38.193
Saturday night we get there and you know we're like oh I don't see Jim.

00:42:38.193 --> 00:42:39.175
He's actually sleeping.

00:42:39.175 --> 00:42:40.057
I'm happy for him.

00:42:40.057 --> 00:42:40.880
He's actually sleeping.

00:42:40.880 --> 00:42:49.670
In the morning I see him and I find out he's only sleeping because he unloaded 200 bales of hay on the loft of his barn by himself.

00:42:49.670 --> 00:42:58.871
He'd throw 10 bales in at a time and then get on a ladder, climb all the way up to the top, move them and climb back down and throw 10 more for 200 freaking bales of hay.

00:43:00.021 --> 00:43:01.407
That is hard working.

00:43:01.407 --> 00:43:05.170
That is what it takes to live the life you want to live.

00:43:05.170 --> 00:43:08.061
That is what it takes to get ahead in this country today.

00:43:08.061 --> 00:43:12.028
That is a damn inspiration, jim.

00:43:12.028 --> 00:43:24.965
Heidi, I can't thank you enough for your hospitality, for your generosity and your inspiration, your inspiration as to what it takes to live the life you want To do, the things you want to do.

00:43:24.965 --> 00:43:30.054
You have to make sacrifices that some people just can't do.

00:43:30.054 --> 00:43:34.324
Man, we've been running y'all.

00:43:34.324 --> 00:43:36.369
It's been, it's been, it's been busy.

00:43:36.771 --> 00:43:46.733
It's funny because I can complain about the things that I'm doing, I can complain about the schedule that I keep, and then I spend a little time with Jim and I just, I just, I just stopped complaining because old boy work circles around me.

00:43:46.733 --> 00:43:47.025
I think I'm a hardworking dude, right.

00:43:47.025 --> 00:43:47.809
I think I'm a little time with Jim and I just stop complaining because old boy works circles around me.

00:43:47.809 --> 00:43:49.494
I think I'm a hardworking dude, right?

00:43:49.494 --> 00:43:50.786
I think I'm a hardworking guy.

00:43:50.786 --> 00:44:00.809
Like, if I just put in perspective for you my week, last week, on Thursday me and my mom are heading out to set up for the event, and then you know we work.

00:44:00.809 --> 00:44:13.360
I get there whatever 8-ish in the morning, 8, 830 or something like that, 8.30, 9 o'clock, set up for the event and then me and my mom and Matt get some lunch, come back and we're open until about 10 o'clock at night.

00:44:13.360 --> 00:44:24.128
And then Friday morning I get up, bring my mom home which is about an hour away I go in the office, get some work done, pick my wife up, drive back to the event and work till 10 o'clock.

00:44:24.128 --> 00:44:26.572
That's like a normal schedule.

00:44:26.572 --> 00:44:27.893
It's a normal routine for me.

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But when I hang out with Jim I don't even feel comfortable talking about my routine because it just seems weak.

00:44:35.045 --> 00:44:35.586
Okay, just seems weak.

00:44:36.469 --> 00:45:08.480
Now, speaking of my weak ass routine that I've been keeping, we have made the decision to lighten the load a little bit and, um, I might be taking a few more things off my schedule above and beyond that, because we're just preparing for a little Paisley's arrival and there was a, you know, a fair I was going to do that was kind of close to the due date and I reached out to them and said you know what, it's in my best interest and my family's best interest if I just stay close to home and I've been asked to do a few different events that I've been hesitant to say yes to, that.

00:45:08.480 --> 00:45:19.231
I've actually said no to quite a few of them because I just want to be home, I want to be present and I want to prepare myself for the best events that are left on my schedule.

00:45:19.231 --> 00:45:32.644
So it's tough, it's stressful, because right now I'm in the middle of a couple of weeks here where I'm not going to be on the road for the, for the business.

00:45:32.644 --> 00:46:01.331
So this weekend, on Friday, I'm going to be at Bentley saloon DJing for the uh, mullets and Daisy Duke night, which is always a great time, and, um, in actuality, it might be my last time of the year DJing at the Saloon, because the next time I'm scheduled is right around our due date and after another appointment or two trying to gauge things I might make an adjustment and maybe back out of that event as well.

00:46:01.331 --> 00:46:03.764
So this might be the last time I DJ at the Saloon this year.

00:46:03.764 --> 00:46:07.873
And Saturday I'm hired at another bar for a private party.

00:46:07.873 --> 00:46:10.407
So I have two DJ events this weekend.

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And then next weekend is actually Little Paisley's Baby Shower, which, if you guys know us, baby showers aren't a thing.

00:46:22.072 --> 00:46:23.023
It's a party.

00:46:23.023 --> 00:46:24.985
Okay, it's an eight-hour party.

00:46:24.985 --> 00:46:29.711
It's a pig roast, courtesy of our fam out in New York.

00:46:29.711 --> 00:46:35.385
Kip's going to be hauling up a smoker and smoking a pig all night and we're going to have a pig roast.

00:46:35.385 --> 00:46:38.748
My brother, jake Perrin, is going to be there playing music.

00:46:38.748 --> 00:46:47.565
We're going to have games and just fun organized and just going to have ourselves a big old hoot and nanny just enjoying ourselves.

00:46:47.565 --> 00:46:53.387
So that's coming up and just the thought of a baby shower day getting here.

00:46:53.387 --> 00:46:56.693
It makes everything seem so much more real.

00:46:56.860 --> 00:47:04.393
We came home from our event over the weekend to tons of boxes being delivered for the baby shower.

00:47:04.393 --> 00:47:19.547
I'm actually recording in the garage today and behind me it's just a big ass pile of stuff Okay, just Amazon packages as far as the eye can see, and arts and crafts, all kinds of craziness, my wife just getting ready for the big day.

00:47:19.547 --> 00:47:22.702
So a lot of moving parts that are that are taking place.

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I'm not as gonna.

00:47:23.445 --> 00:47:32.010
I'm not going to be as busy with events for the brand, but I'm going to be extremely busy with all the other things that go with the brand.

00:47:32.010 --> 00:47:42.065
And then the task at hand for the family, because I'm going to try to get caught up on a bunch of custom orders that I've been neglecting because I've just been on the road and haven't had the chance to do them.

00:47:42.065 --> 00:47:51.034
I've got arts and crafts and projects to do for the big baby event and then just overall just getting the house ready and doing all those things.

00:47:51.034 --> 00:47:55.284
So I got a lot of things coming my way.

00:47:55.284 --> 00:48:05.068
It's just hard to adjust to the fact that what I have to do and all the tasks at hand, they're not putting a bunch of money in my hand, because I'm used to being somewhere collecting funds.

00:48:05.068 --> 00:48:07.967
Instead I'm going to be home preparing for things.

00:48:07.967 --> 00:48:09.371
So that's an adjustment.

00:48:09.371 --> 00:48:11.768
That's going to be different and it has me a little bit stressed.

00:48:13.081 --> 00:48:19.422
For July, the business is going to be down just a little bit, not by much Year to year.

00:48:19.422 --> 00:48:21.909
I think we're about neck and neck with where we were last year.

00:48:21.909 --> 00:48:38.880
But I'm a little nervous because, as of right now, in August I only have one event on my schedule and September is one event on my schedule and I normally have just about every weekend filled on my schedule.

00:48:38.880 --> 00:48:45.373
So a lot of holes, a lot of nervous moments and feelings ahead.

00:48:45.373 --> 00:48:51.827
But I'm doing what's right for the family and doing the best I can.

00:48:51.827 --> 00:48:58.112
I'm going to prepare as much as I can to make the two events I have be the best events that I can have.

00:48:58.112 --> 00:49:06.664
I'm going to tirelessly apply to some things to add additional events to my year that I wouldn't normally have.

00:49:06.664 --> 00:49:11.693
So I'm destined to land a big fish for either November or December.

00:49:11.693 --> 00:49:21.887
I'm determined to make that happen and that'll help offset and compensate for the times that I'm having to give up in the next couple of months.

00:49:21.887 --> 00:49:30.184
But I'm giving those times up so I can be here for my wife, my mother and little Paisley, giving those times up so I can be here for my wife, my mother and little Paisley.

00:49:30.184 --> 00:49:36.443
And once I take care of that, I will reapply myself and make up for that time financially, because I can never make up for it emotionally.

00:49:37.083 --> 00:49:42.445
I have learned long ago that I'm not going to waste memories and moments with my family.

00:49:42.445 --> 00:49:52.072
That's one of the reasons why I started this brand to never have to answer to anybody else that's going to dictate my family and the time I get to spend with my family.

00:49:52.072 --> 00:50:16.871
And speaking of family, that's another topic, because I realized after losing my dad that I spent a good 30 plus years pretending to be okay, pretending to love and respect and appreciate a large portion of family, and when it came right down to the bitter end, they didn't give two shits about me.

00:50:16.871 --> 00:50:24.373
They've disowned me, they've dragged me through the mud, they've disgraced me and I moved on.

00:50:24.373 --> 00:50:27.739
And you guys have heard all those stories and all those conversations.

00:50:28.461 --> 00:50:34.159
But something has happened that has made me realize I sacrificed my own true feelings.

00:50:34.159 --> 00:50:40.431
I sacrificed my heart and my emotions for the betterment of my parents.

00:50:40.431 --> 00:50:48.581
I swallowed how I was feeling many times because I did not want to come between the relationship that my dad had with his kids.

00:50:48.581 --> 00:50:50.327
I didn't want to be the one to do it right.

00:50:50.327 --> 00:50:58.871
So I just put on a happy, smiley face most of the time, even though I knew they couldn't stand me, even though I heard them talking shit.

00:50:58.871 --> 00:51:10.143
I just did what I had to do to bite my tongue, to keep the peace and, the grand scheme of things, it was completely unnecessary and I didn't need to do it because they turned on my dad.

00:51:10.143 --> 00:51:14.612
In the end, anyways, I could have maybe saved him from that hurt.

00:51:14.612 --> 00:51:21.065
But I wouldn't have wanted to live with the regret of feeling like I was somebody that caused those things.

00:51:21.565 --> 00:51:28.222
So I did what I had to do, but I've realized I don't need to do that anymore and I realized that I'm not going to subject little Paisley to that.

00:51:28.222 --> 00:51:40.240
But I've realized I don't need to do that anymore and I realized that I'm not going to subject little Paisley to that, that I'm not going to bring her around people for their own amusement when ultimately someday some way, they're going to let her down just like they let me down.

00:51:40.240 --> 00:51:42.186
I'm not going to raise her like that.

00:51:42.186 --> 00:52:07.427
I'm not going to subject her to that ridiculousness, because when she comes into this world full of love and looking to give and get love, when she's looking to build a family and enjoy the family and have those relationships, it hurts that much more when you open yourself up to those things to people that just don't appreciate you, to people that are just selfish, that are just out there for themselves.

00:52:07.427 --> 00:52:10.650
So I'm going to protect her from all those things.

00:52:11.831 --> 00:52:21.717
I say this because I have realized over the past weekend that I have family that is supposedly close to me that just isn't close to me.

00:52:21.717 --> 00:52:30.842
I still have a great portion of family that pretends to enjoy me, that pretends to appreciate me and love me.

00:52:30.842 --> 00:52:40.349
When they receive something from those pretend emotions you understand what I'm saying when it's beneficial for them, they will appreciate me.

00:52:40.349 --> 00:52:56.222
Whether it's posting on my Facebook, responding to something you know, putting those things out there, like if they see me at an event, let's go in and act all you know lovey-dovey and appreciative and let's see if we can get something for free.

00:52:56.222 --> 00:53:14.505
Or let's talk about them online in a positive light, because when they share something, when they respond to something, they feel like they're doing something positive and it's leading me to believe they truly cared about me, that they appreciate me, that they're trying to support me, when all along they're continuing to mislead me.

00:53:14.505 --> 00:53:15.889
Let me give you some examples.

00:53:16.371 --> 00:53:26.523
Somebody that openly tries to convey and confess their love to me, but in the background, when they think I can't see, they unsubscribe to my email blast.

00:53:26.523 --> 00:53:29.188
They unsubscribe to an email on Mother's Day.

00:53:29.188 --> 00:53:30.771
That's a picture of me and my mom.

00:53:30.771 --> 00:53:47.148
They have to go through the three-step process of being like I don't want to receive these anymore To family that then wants to reach out and say, hey, I'm not going to make it to the baby shower because it's just too far to travel when what they do for a living is travel.

00:53:47.148 --> 00:54:06.670
Okay, so the two hour drive is too much when you normally drive four to six hours every weekend anyways, for an event, for a business, for you know, to make money, but um, it's just too much to travel for this event.

00:54:06.670 --> 00:54:11.487
Listen, if you don't want to be there, I'd rather you just tell me hey, man, parties aren't my thing.

00:54:11.487 --> 00:54:13.043
I don't want to do it.

00:54:13.043 --> 00:54:14.528
Right, it is what it is.

00:54:15.880 --> 00:54:33.030
Or the immediate family that we've sent the invite to that literally just looks at it, reads it and doesn't respond, doesn't say anything To then the personal message that says, hey, not it, and doesn't respond, doesn't say anything To then the personal message that says, hey, not sure if you're seeing this, just want to reach out and see if you can make it.

00:54:33.030 --> 00:54:37.130
Nothing Crickets Don't respond, don't acknowledge, don't say anything.

00:54:37.130 --> 00:54:40.990
Listen, guys, I don't care if somebody can't make it.

00:54:40.990 --> 00:54:46.806
You don't expect people to all make it, but ignoring somebody is just ridiculous.

00:54:46.806 --> 00:54:59.887
And when you're an immediate family and you can't just pick up the phone, come over, have a conversation, even send a message that says shit, I'm so sorry, I have these plans, it is what it is.

00:55:00.509 --> 00:55:09.942
Ignoring me, not responding, turning into a two-year-old and just putting up a wall over something is absolutely ridiculous.

00:55:09.942 --> 00:55:13.931
I didn't do anything to you and my soon-to-be daughter didn't do anything to you.

00:55:13.931 --> 00:55:23.492
It's okay for you just to say I'm not going to make it, I don't even care if you just don't want to be there and you tell me dude, I don't want to go, it's not my thing, I don't care.

00:55:23.492 --> 00:55:30.661
Ignoring me as family is ridiculous.

00:55:30.661 --> 00:55:35.030
And when that family ignores me and then waits for me to be on the road, to then come home to then come over and to visit my mother.

00:55:35.030 --> 00:55:37.081
It's just kind of a slap in the face.

00:55:37.081 --> 00:55:44.903
It draws a distinct line in the sand about how people feel and think about me and my wife and my child.

00:55:44.903 --> 00:55:50.688
And the truth is, all that matters to me in my life is my wife and my child.

00:55:50.688 --> 00:55:56.929
So if you choose to go against them, then I refuse to continue to be with you.

00:55:57.009 --> 00:55:58.012
Does that make sense, guys?

00:55:58.012 --> 00:56:05.226
I don't think I'm asking for much here and I please, please, please, please want to convey this to anybody listening.

00:56:05.226 --> 00:56:10.987
If you're listening and I invite you to the baby shower, you've received an invite and you can't go.

00:56:10.987 --> 00:56:14.427
It's okay, it's totally okay, I get it.

00:56:14.427 --> 00:56:16.608
I don't get to go to a lot of things.

00:56:16.608 --> 00:56:19.789
My business, my life is constantly on the road.

00:56:19.789 --> 00:56:21.967
I miss a lot of things.

00:56:22.721 --> 00:56:31.173
I am 100% the most understanding individual when it comes to hey, dude, I'm really sorry, but I can't make it.

00:56:31.173 --> 00:56:32.335
I understand it.

00:56:32.335 --> 00:56:34.889
I am the fucking, I can't make it guy.

00:56:34.889 --> 00:56:42.744
I can't make it all the time and I'm never trying to come in between somebody and their plans, their livelihood, their business, whatever it is they have to do.

00:56:42.744 --> 00:56:44.826
So many of you listening like.

00:56:44.826 --> 00:56:46.530
You're on the road, just like I am.

00:56:46.530 --> 00:56:47.503
You have events.

00:56:47.503 --> 00:56:48.106
I get it.

00:56:48.320 --> 00:56:54.583
I never in a million years expected you to be there to make it, but I didn't want you to not be invited by me.

00:56:54.583 --> 00:56:58.195
I didn't want you to think I didn't want you there Half the time.

00:56:58.195 --> 00:57:03.626
It literally is a matter of letting you know you're appreciated and I want you to be a part of my life.

00:57:03.626 --> 00:57:10.355
And if you're reciprocating a conversation with me that says, dude, I love you and I wish I could be there, but I can't, that's great, dude.

00:57:10.355 --> 00:57:18.574
That's all you can ever ask for, because we are all busy and I'm one of the busiest dudes that you have on your timeline.

00:57:18.574 --> 00:57:20.543
I'm one of the last people to respond.

00:57:20.543 --> 00:57:22.947
I constantly miss important things.

00:57:22.947 --> 00:57:24.190
I get it.

00:57:24.190 --> 00:57:25.512
I'm one of those people.

00:57:25.512 --> 00:57:47.373
But when your immediate family and you 110% have read everything that we've sent, you understand and you know, and you refuse to acknowledge or respond, it is shitty and you are drawing a line in the sand that says this is how I feel about you and your family.

00:57:47.373 --> 00:57:52.027
So don't expect me to welcome you with open arms when I see you.

00:57:52.748 --> 00:57:56.684
There's too many people in my life that just don't have accountability.

00:57:56.684 --> 00:58:02.061
I have some people in my life that had just how do I put this?

00:58:02.061 --> 00:58:03.226
They're never wrong.

00:58:03.226 --> 00:58:03.746
They're always right.

00:58:03.746 --> 00:58:06.094
They're always complaining, but they're never willing to do what's right.

00:58:06.094 --> 00:58:09.365
They're always complaining, but they're never willing to do what's right.

00:58:09.365 --> 00:58:10.672
You understand what I'm saying.

00:58:11.193 --> 00:58:15.251
Do you have those people in your life that every single time you see them, they're complaining?

00:58:15.251 --> 00:58:17.860
Something sucks, somebody's doing this.

00:58:17.860 --> 00:58:19.385
This is the reason for that.

00:58:19.385 --> 00:58:20.929
They are never the reason.

00:58:20.929 --> 00:58:22.211
They are never the problem.

00:58:22.211 --> 00:58:24.324
They are never the issue.

00:58:24.324 --> 00:58:26.889
Everybody else around them is the issue.

00:58:26.889 --> 00:58:29.302
Every time you see them, they're going to complain.

00:58:29.302 --> 00:58:30.264
I don't have this.

00:58:30.264 --> 00:58:31.427
I can't do that.

00:58:31.427 --> 00:58:32.469
She hates me.

00:58:32.469 --> 00:58:33.351
He hates me.

00:58:33.351 --> 00:58:34.221
I'm sick of that.

00:58:36.184 --> 00:58:37.106
I got to tell you folks.

00:58:37.106 --> 00:58:43.164
If you have one of those people in your life, they're probably not going to change.

00:58:43.164 --> 00:58:47.273
All that's going to change is your feelings and your emotions.

00:58:47.273 --> 00:58:54.929
The more times you try to invest in them, the more times you try to include them and they reward you without responding.

00:58:54.929 --> 00:59:01.820
They show their character by not reciprocating your love and appreciation At some point.

00:59:01.820 --> 00:59:07.188
You just have to cut that off, no matter how close they are to you.

00:59:07.188 --> 00:59:11.434
It sucks, but it is true.

00:59:11.434 --> 00:59:12.896
It is damn true.

00:59:19.980 --> 00:59:21.704
Those people in your life that act that way they struggle with accountability.

00:59:21.704 --> 00:59:29.485
They probably grew up in a certain way where nobody ever held them accountable, where it was easier to just give them what they wanted instead of explaining why they can't have something.

00:59:29.485 --> 00:59:42.724
Those are lessons that I'm trying to hold true and dear to me to ensure that I raise Paisley in a way that doesn't cause her to lack accountability, like some of the people in my life.

00:59:42.724 --> 00:59:51.023
There's some folks in my life that deserve a hard, honest conversation, but they'll never show up for that conversation.

00:59:51.023 --> 01:00:02.445
So someday they'll grow up and maybe some way they'll be ready for that conversation, but by that time it's often too damn late.

01:00:05.148 --> 01:00:08.532
Wow, what a well-rounded little show we had here.

01:00:08.532 --> 01:00:11.476
Nice little show, it was a well-rounded little show.

01:00:11.476 --> 01:00:14.650
I truly feel like it was a fabulous little show.

01:00:14.650 --> 01:00:34.646
We took topics all the way from democracy to parenthood, okay, and all the good in between there inspiration from folks working their ass off to people just showing up and giving you life advice and standing up for your wife All those beautiful things were encompassed in one fabulous little show.

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I appreciate you, I thank you and I want y'all to know I appreciate you.

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Okay, I do.

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There's a lot of people in your life that probably ain't willing to tell you they appreciate you.

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I'm one of those guys, okay?

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So if you found some value from today's show, please share the show, hit, subscribe, grow the tribe.

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Tell somebody you love to listen to the show, because we're always looking to grow this damn show Until next time.

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Thank you for supporting my American dream.

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Now go wash your fucking hands, you filthy savage.

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That's it and that's all Biggie Smalls.

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If you're a loud proud American and you find yourself just wanting more, find me on YouTube and Facebook at loud proud American Put a face page, as my mama calls it.

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If you're a fan of the Graham Cracker, want to find me on Instagram.

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Or all the kids by tickety-talking on the TikTok.

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You can find me on both of those at loud underscore, proud underscore, american.

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A big old thank you to the boys from the Gut Truckers for the background beats and the theme song for this year's podcast.

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If you are enjoying what you're hearing, you can track down the Gut Truckers on Facebook Just search Gut Truckers.

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Give them, motherfuckers, a like too.

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Make it bleed, I hate to.

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I truly thank you for supporting my American dream.

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Now go wash your fucking hands, you filthy savage.