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Surviving and Thriving in Early Parenthood 218

Surviving and Thriving in Early Parenthood 218
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What happens when your first week of parenthood meets the chaos of real life? Join us as we laugh, cry, and navigate the whirlwind that is our new world with baby Paisley. These early days are all about finding strength in our struggles and cherishing the small victories, much like our podcast's beginnings during the pandemic.

Ever wondered what it's like to take a newborn to a crowded craft fair? We share some heartwarming and humorous stories from our first family outings with Paisley. Imagine the excitement of curious strangers and the joy of relatives meeting her for the first time. We delve into the emotional complexities that come with our new roles, from managing breast pumping schedules to using apps for tracking baby milestones. A poignant moment arises as I reflect on being called "dad" so soon after losing my own father, adding emotional depth to our journey.

Balancing work and family life with a newborn is no small feat. We open up about our anxieties surrounding this new chapter, from the fear of missing out on Paisley's early moments to the challenge of managing work commitments. Amidst the chaos of baby throw-up and unexpected pee incidents, we find joy in the simple moments, like watching the NFL opening day together. The episode is a celebration of mutual support, patience, and the importance of embracing every messy, beautiful moment of parenthood. Connect with us on social media and join in celebrating the American dream with a community that gets it.

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Chapters

00:02 - Parenting, Podcasting, and Business Growth

11:00 - Family Outing With Newborn

15:37 - Feeling Like a Dad

19:35 - First Week of Parenthood

31:49 - Friendship Dynamics Amid Life Changes

45:12 - Navigating New Parenthood Challenges

53:20 - Navigating Work-Life Balance as New Parents

58:58 - Finding Joy in Everyday Moments

01:08:02 - Parenting Humor and Gross Moments

01:12:21 - Podcast Sign-Off and Self-Promotion

Transcript
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it's hard to believe, but it's officially been one week since bringing little paisley brain home from the hospital.

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How was our first week of parenthood?

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Did we thrive or just survive?

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All that more on this episode of share the struggle podcast.

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Let me tell you something everybody struggles.

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The difference is some people choose to go through it and some choose to grow through it.

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The choice is completely yours.

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Which one you choose will have a very profound effect on the way you live your life.

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If you find strength in the struggle, then this podcast is for you.

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Do you have a relationship that is comfortable with uncomfortable conversations?

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Uncomfortable conversations challenge you, humble you and they build you, when you sprinkle a little time and distance on it, it all makes sense and distance on it, it all makes sense.

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Most disagreements, they stem from our own insecurities.

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You are right where you need to be Back on time.

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We need to find our place the whole day gone, we'll be right.

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Take on what is mine Too fast and I wait.

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Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh.

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What it do, what it hot and diggity do.

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I am so damn excited to be back with you.

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Oh, it's true, it's damn true, and it's not just me and you, because this week I welcome back my baby and boo.

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Yep, the two of us.

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There you go.

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Just the two of us, the duo, the dynamic duo.

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We can make it if we try.

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Just the two of us.

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You and I Thanks for serenading us.

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Well, you know I'm not much for nursery rhymes, so I do what I can to put something together.

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You know what I mean Something really nice.

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You know it?

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Oh man, here we are, episode 2.

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Do you know what number it is?

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Yeah, I had to look it up it up too, because it's been that many 218, y'all 218 episodes.

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The consecutive streak has been challenged over the past couple weeks because, let's just be honest, we've got other things to do lately.

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Yeah, you know, you look a little tired over there, how you holding up?

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you're getting sleepy right now, tired oh my god, this is not gonna be easy.

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I gotta pull you along on this one sorry, I have a newborn you might as well open up a nos energy drink or something, because you're only gonna sleep in fucking 30 minute to two hour increments anyways don't tempt me, I'll shotgun it right here, right now you can do those sort of things.

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now you know what else you could technically do.

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I mean, you probably can't do it because you're the lifeline, You're the food supply off the teat, the holy teat.

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So you probably can't.

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but Milking parlor.

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You are definitely a milking parlor.

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You could give the old bush peach a try, but you can't really you can.

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So what um?

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The way that you do it is I actually pump first um and then I drink and then um.

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So when?

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I discard the rest of the.

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What happens after pump wise?

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no, so like by the time you like, pump again you're, you're fine, like as long as like you if you have one, like if you go to dinner and have like one you're fine, like it's not gonna like do anything.

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If you were going out to drink, then like that was like the goal, like if there was an event going on, then, yeah, you would just pump and dump.

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Send it.

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Yeah.

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Feed it to the neighbors?

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No, no like no, like you can do other things with them like you can fertilize a garden sure if that's what you want to do, but, like lots of people will do um like oat milk baths, um so you just wait a minute.

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Oat milk bath yeah, so you take like oats, like if the baby has like a rash or something.

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So you'll take like oats and like breast milk and like you soak them in there um is that?

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how the oat milk for my coffee's made.

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Good babe, is there some big old lady's tit milk that I drink in my coffee?

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it's probably probably accurate why she got to be big.

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Well, I you seen the size of my coffee.

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I mean there's, that's not like you're putting two ounces in there.

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That's some substance there.

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You know what I mean right, I gotcha huh well this episode's already right off the cart here, but uh, what were we talking about?

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breast milk, oh, I don't think that was being tired for that 218 episodes, that's consecutive episodes.

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I don't know what made me think about this earlier today, but, um, I was thinking about when we finally get to 365 episodes.

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This is so stupid.

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It's probably me being sleep deprived.

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But I was like, oh my god, when we finally get to 365 episodes, this is so stupid.

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It's probably me being sleep deprived.

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But I was like, oh my God, we're not that far away from legitimately having a podcast episode for every day of the year.

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So, you could start like have like a New Year's resolution that's like, hey, you know what, Every day this year I'm going to binge one STS.

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There you go, You'm going to binge one STS.

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There, you go, you going to do it.

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Listen to myself, dude.

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I talk to myself more than once a day, every day anyways.

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But I don't know.

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I thought it was cool and then that'll be like our claim to fame there.

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I don't know.

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Who knows, who knows what the end game is for the podcast.

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I don't have a damn clue where we're headed with the direction of the show in its entirety.

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But ultimately we started the podcast to really just open up conversation.

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Because we started the podcast during the pandemic.

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I had just made a career change, so I was working from home in isolation, the world shut down, nobody was getting together, there was no like social interaction, and I was craving that interaction and those conversations and I missed all the conversations and dialogue and relationships that were made when I was working at the dealership.

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Every day was a different story.

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It was a different I almost would say counseling session with somebody that I worked with, and I had got to the point of July 2020 and realized that I really missed those conversations and those opportunities to help better somebody's life or situation.

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So we started the podcast and then, as we started the podcast with that, I then got the idea that, you know, having a podcast is a great way to capture a life story, to build a legacy to.

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You know, have those memories that could live on forever.

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And then, as we think about having a child, I think about how amazing it could be for little Paisley now, now that we know who we have here with us, that someday build a future, and all those difficult conversations about hey, you know, how do I balance having a child and raising a child, and if it's the right decision to keep a business going versus going to work for somebody else, all those things.

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I've really decided that there's a great benefit for her in this, you know yeah, absolutely some of those stories that we've had in the beginning and her being able to go back and be like I want to learn about my grandpa, you know, yeah, and she could go back and listen first hand to stories about her grandfather, yeah.

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So those are some of the reasons why, you know, I want to keep the show going and I also feel that I'm hell-bent to determine that our business is going to work in some day, some way.

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When it does and it's successful, then there's lots of clues for other businesses to listen to, to help themselves grow, to be like, hey, wow, here's the grassroots campaign, here's the growing pains of a business, of a brand.

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And you know I can't help but think, for anybody listening that you know they're trying to do something for themselves.

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How powerful it would be for them to hear the beginning years of their favorite you know brand or business and hear that upbringing.

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You know, like, how powerful that would be to, you know, hear the story day in, day out, like a week to week, like I mean, put it this way, I'm not I'm not a Nike guy at all anymore.

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I used to be as a kid, but if you were listening along as Nike was being built.

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I think that would be pretty amazing.

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I'm not ever shooting to be Nike, because I don't want my stuff made in sweatshops overseas.

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Everything's going to be made here in America and I would never want to scale to something of that size.

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But the point I'm making here is that for other businesses to listen to the journey and understand that it's not easy and that it's never been easy those are some of the things that have always kept me wanting to stick to the podcast.

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And now, adding a little Paisley to this and knowing that she can hear if she wanted to, she could go back and listen to hey.

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Last week, episode two what is it?

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17 was the episode when my mom and dad actually brought me home from the hospital.

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The following week, 2-18, was my first week at home.

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How was that?

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How did that go?

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Not every week is going to be solely about her.

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No.

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But she's going to hear all those things and I just feel like this is a tremendous legacy for her.

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I would give just about anything to be able to put my headphones on on a day that I was struggling and listen to my dad work through his struggle.

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Listen to my dad give his advice or insight on a situation.

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Yeah, what would my mom do, what would my dad do?

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Yeah, so that's a big part of the commitment, and I'm saying this and giving these stories to emphasize the fact that last week was the day we brought our little girl home.

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The last thing we wanted to do was literally turn on our microphone and push record.

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This week, here we are again.

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It's 930 at night.

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You're holding her, feeding her right now, and we're just trying to get our episode in because we want to keep that streak alive for a little Paisley rain and for all of our day ones out there, because we owe it to you, because you've been supporting us, that we continue to make this dream happen.

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We've got to catch her with her ones up.

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You have to for sure, Because she does it.

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She'll reach for the stars and just put one finger up.

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It's hilarious.

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She gets those ones up.

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She gets them dukes up.

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I'll tell you what.

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Oh, she's ready, it's hilarious, she gets those ones up.

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She gets them, dukes up.

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I'll tell you what.

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Oh, she's ready.

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She's ready to take on the world.

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It's funny, that little girl has all your sass, and I said it again last week.

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She has your attitude, your sass, and she has daddy's hands.

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There's no doubt about it.

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Mm-hmm Facts.

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It's funny we're going to kind of bounce around on this podcast episode, but last weekend we actually kind of took her out of the house.

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I wouldn't necessarily say for the first time, and she went to pick my mom up at work.

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But we went out.

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We went to a couple of craft fairs, we attempted to go to two craft fairs.

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We went and saw my aunt and uncle at a craft fair and surprised them by bringing little Paisley there and we tried to surprise the Pettengills, wallace and Woodcraft but we couldn't get a parking spot close enough to the craft fair.

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That wasn't a two mile hike for mom and said baby.

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Yeah.

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Who is a week out of the womb and a week out of the hospital.

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Baker's dozen worth of stitches.

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Yeah, literally, we gave it a shot and you said I could see it you were like I'm gonna, I will cut you I can't like it's.

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I've been again staying active, um, like after the pregnancy, um, so I've been, you know, doing projects and doing still doing the barn chores, but there comes a time when my feet start to get really swollen and I'm really uncomfortable.

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So, you know, you just have to listen to your body and walking two miles Listen to your body talk.

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I just couldn't do it, just couldn't do it.

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You couldn't do it, or you couldn't what I couldn't do it, yeah I hear you Not gonna do it.

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Not gonna do it or you couldn't what I?

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couldn't do it.

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Yeah, there you are.

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Not gonna do it, not gonna do it, so I rewarded myself with McDonald's.

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We did get McDonald's on the way home, didn't we I?

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did try, I did try to walk.

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Yeah.

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We got.

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I felt like we got a mile and a half in and couldn't see the tent and said, well, yeah, seriously, the parking lot was so full and we were like literally like on the roadway and I was like where the heck is this place?

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I parked in the Willy Wax.

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Yeah.

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First off, yeah, I didn't expect that kind of people for a craft fair man.

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No, and then I asked you I was like where are we even going?

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And you're like over there with the white tents and I was like what white tents?

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I white tents.

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And I was like what white tents?

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I don't see any tents.

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And you're like, yeah, over there over yonder on the hill, and I was like it felt a lot like when we were in texas and I told you that what a burger was right there in sight because, you can see the sign, but that's true, that sign was like six miles away that makes, yeah, I can, I can relate to that I learned my lesson and I wanted to see and live for another day, so I just said, okay, maybe next time.

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Let's go get McDonald's.

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Yeah, but the point I was making here is what I thought was kind of funny.

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First off, this is the first time we really kind of walked around anywhere and people were stopping us like oh my God, she's so beautiful and we're like this is great, this is flattering, but I also can't.

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It's like I'm walking the Pope.

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You know what I mean.

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It's true, she's in a little buggy, she's got a net, like I'm just running the Pope along, and they're like oh, would you bless me?

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You know, I'm like can we just move along here, folks?

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And then everybody wants to judge you because, like, some of them are like oh my god, it's amazing.

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And other ones are like uh, ew what are you doing out?

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fuck off, karen yeah, put your mask back on the nice thing is is that you know, like she, like you said, she was in her buggy and she had a net up and in the popemobile literally like nobody's touching her, like it's we're just going about the business and the craft.

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A couple of the craft fairs, or the one craft fair that we actually attended, was outside and inside, but like we've just been moseying around just doing the things, like we're a family that's on the move and she loves every minute of it hey man, when, um, what I was trying to say about this and I got off this little tangent here is that this old couple stopped me and they were looking at her and talking about how beautiful she is, and and the wife was like, oh yeah, she looks just like you.

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And the husband says I don't know if she looks just like you, but I know one thing that is absolutely just like you.

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And I was like, oh yeah, and she goes she has the exact same arms as you.

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Her arms and hands are the same, and it's so true, because it's funny, I had just said the night before I'm like I know her hands are the same as me, but these arms, these are like little miniature versions of me.

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Well, I hope she gets mama's booty, because daddy don't have one.

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You know what I?

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mean.

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Me, daddy, don't have one, you know what I mean Me too.

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Baby's got back.

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Yeah, she needs that.

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She's going to be a tall girl with a big old booty.

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Big old booty, sir.

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I mean let's.

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That's all right.

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Hey, whatevs man.

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Listen if.

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Uncle, she's not going to date until she's 35 anyways.

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If Uncle Cowboy, do you don't need a booty to be dating?

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No, cowboy, do you don't need?

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Do you don't need a booty to be dating?

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I was just gonna say uncle.

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Uncle dave is going to um uncle cowboy, all right, I don't even like using his real name goodness um, she can check people with the big booty on the basketball team.

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Yeah, he's already it'll, it'll make her, make him happy anyway anyway, first week in the books, it was last week around this time we were sitting here talking about like oh my god, I can't believe we're home.

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We were sharing the stories of her arrival the delivery process, all those things.

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Now we're home.

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We've been here trying to find a routine, trying to settle in.

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As any parents out there that are listening, they know what the first week or first few weeks are like.

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It's sleeping in shifts and increments.

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Basically, I think we're living our life three hours at a time.

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Currently, everything revolves around what time she needs to eat.

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When's the last time she took a poop?

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How long has it been since you pumped your boobs?

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And can I close my eyes safely?

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Ooh, that reminds me I have to put that in the app.

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Your boob pumping yeah.

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I pumped, or the feeding.

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Both.

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When did you pump your boobers?

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I was discreet about it, wasn't I?

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What was?

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I was discreet about.

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It wasn't I.

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What was that?

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I was discreet about it, wasn't I?

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I guess I'll have to check the app see what I missed out on your hooters here.

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It's funny that there's an app for everything.

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Everything's tracked.

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I mean you go in there and click on an app and say like oh she pooed.

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Literally it says poo and then it has like little diagrams of solid and colors and quantities and it's out of control.

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I never thought I'd have an app for my child's poo and my wife's breast pumping hey, welcome to parenthood.

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What the fuck happened to me?

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you're a dad that doesn't seem right happened to me.

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You're a dad.

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That doesn't seem right.

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You're a papa that seems too old, I don't know.

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Man, it's weird.

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We've had this conversation already where, um, I'm not comfortable really being dad and I, uh, um, I don't feel like a dad yet anyways, like I haven't had to make any monumental decisions, you know what I mean.

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Like it's weird.

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I just I don't know, I don't feel like a dad.

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Does that sound funny?

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Is?

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that weird.

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No, I mean, you should feel like a mom.

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You house that little ninja, I feel like, I feel like a mom, all right I mean I feel like I'm puppy training like.

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Like when I brought Folsom home, this was the same scenario.

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I brought a couple hours get him outside.

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I didn't have to breastfeed him.

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We don't bring the kid outside every couple of hours.

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Watch me.

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It's beautiful out.

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It's kind of cold out here today.

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I love it.

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Anyway.

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Yeah, so it's weird man, it's weird for me to be called dad, and I guess maybe part of that is timing.

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You know, like I just lost my dad less than a year ago, the last thing I want to think about is replacing him in any sort of uh way.

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Like we said before, I feel like in a former life.

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We came from the south, so, um, you know, her being a little girl calling me daddy.

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I think that's different.

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I never once recalled myself ever calling my dad daddy.

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He probably would have backhanded you.

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Oh yeah.

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Well, it's kind of funny and tough for a kid to be like, excuse me, daddy, and my dad would turn around and be like what do you want, you little cocksucker?

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Yeah, you know.

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What the?

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fuck do you want, you little cocksucker?

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You know what the fuck do you want?

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Yeah, that wouldn't have didn't work, just like when my mom made the decision for her to be ma'am.

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Ma, she's clinging to me, ma I think she sounds younger.

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You notice that?

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yeah.

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I think ma'am ma is great.

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I think it's great too my mom's clinging more to me, ma, but hey, whatever makes her happy, and whichever one, I can train the kid to say I'll kick my ass.

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But to every other grandkid my mom is a nana.

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But for me there is only one nana and that's my mom's mom and she's moved on and you just lost your nana.

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So it just doesn't seem appropriate for there to be a nana.

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You just lost your meme, like about a year ago, so those things just don't fit for us.

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So I probably made the joke before on the podcast, but we talked about it before.

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We were even going to have a child saying that there is no mamas in the north, it's a southern thing, and all these, you know, grandparents these days want to be GGs and freaking I don't know whatever else.

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So my mom was bringing back mamas.

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She told me she would do it for us and I said listen, you would be a mama, my dad would be papa and if I'm ever a granddad I'll be hee-haw.

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I'm pretty confident that I shared that story on here before, but, with that said, I can't be hee-haw to my daughter.

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You know what I mean.

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I mean, you can try.

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I don't think it doesn't fit.

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I got to be older, I think, to be a hee-haw.

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I got to be.

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Like a great-grandfather.

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Well, I mean just north of like 60, 65, to be a hee-haw.

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I feel like you know what I mean.

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I'm not saying 60 or 65 is old, but I'm just saying it's older than 42.

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I don't think anybody has ever called their granddad hee-haw before.

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Amen.

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So you're just, I'm starting trends, bro Starting trends.

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Okay, I got you, I want to be a hee-haw.

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I got you.

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Well, you got to tell Paisley yeah.

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You're going to be mama.

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Correct, not mom.

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Excuse me, mama, mm-hmm Because mom turns into ma, which is why mom, mom, mama, ma, mama, ma ma that was me as a child.

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Hopefully my kid doesn't do the same thing.

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You know what I mean.

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Mm-hmm.

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Do you feel like our episode of the podcast is boring?

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Am I boring people right now?

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What I don't.

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Are we boring?

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Are we boring people?

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Is that what happened to us as we're parents?

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Now You're over there fading and logging poops on a phone and I'm no Quit multitasking, because I'm trying to carry this conversation and I'm just going to ramble on and be boring and people are going to say I don't know what happened.

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He used to be a cool guy and then, one week after having a child, he's the dullest podcast host I've ever heard.

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Not the case.

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Not the case no.

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So week one.

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Week one.

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What's it been like for you?

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I've talked enough Give me your synopsis, your screenshot, your recap.

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Week one it has been an adventure.

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I will say that, for the good, we're learning, we're adjusting, we're thriving.

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I think we're doing a great job.

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I really do.

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Neither one of us have ever been in this position before, including her, so everything's new to her and it's new to us, and so you know, I think we're doing a great job by giving ourself grace and giving ourself patience, I guess, like just learning you know, and I have to say that like having her has really just allowed me to slow down.

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And when she's crying and stuff, I just take the time and I'm like it's okay, we're going to be fine, and it's like I'm reassuring her, but I'm also reassuring myself at the same time.

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That makes sense.

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That's a good little habit.

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I think when we talked about it going into being parents, that we said the biggest challenge for us is going to be patience.

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Yeah, absolutely, of course, I mean.

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Yeah, hello.

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By nature, I don't think either one of us are very patient.

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You know I'm always seeking like instant gratification, I'm seeking like an instant result.

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It's tough to you know, build for the long game when you're trying to get short gains you know, and you're not patient at all, hey.

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That's rude.

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No, but it's accurate.

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It's not true.

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You're not patient with this old boy right here.

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I'm patient with her.

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That's what I'm saying.

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We talked about it leading up to this.

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We said this is going to challenge our patience.

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We had that conversation where I said sometimes, if you talked about it leading up to this, we said this is going to challenge our patients because and we had that conversation where I said sometimes, if you and me are working on a project together and we have two different opinions on something, you don't want to hear mine like you, shut that shit down wrong exactly, and there was times when I said, listen, that attitude that we would have working through a project, building something, something setting up a display, like making a new design, the lack of patience that we have for each other during those creative times.

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We have to can that to be good.

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As being parents, I think so far we've done a good job with that.

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I think we've done a good job.

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Yeah, I think over the last week we've been challenged, but I think we've also come out on top and had like rewards as well, like when we both sit on the couch with her and you know, you just watch her like sleeping, like that's a reward, like that alone is just so, so peaceful, like I can't even tell you like how many times I just like caught myself just staring at her and just crying, like for no reason other than the fact that, like, everything in the world is so perfect, like it's just, like it's peaceful, like it's um, you almost just feel like you're right where you need to be.

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You feel like you're right where you need to be, so much so that everything else stops.

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Yeah.

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Everything else lose importance, and that's where my struggle's been at this moment.

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I think she just beefed on you.

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I saw her eyes get wide and there's a grin she might have.

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I think she did.

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She might have packed you a.

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Her eyes get wide and there's a grin she might have.

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I think she did.

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She might have packed you a lunch, if you know what I'm saying there.

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Yeah, she's got one hand up in the air.

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Dad, that was me.

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I shit myself just for you.

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Oh God, Thanks, babe so.

00:26:42.961 --> 00:26:53.788
What I was getting at is that I feel like there's important things going on around me that I just haven't given two shits about, because all I care about is what's in front of me.

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Yeah.

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And I know that that's a great mindset, but it's also a scary mindset, because you realize like, oh my God, I have a lot to do yeah.

00:27:04.626 --> 00:27:05.127
I have a lot to do yeah.

00:27:05.667 --> 00:27:14.176
You know, we talked about the fact that we literally are working towards like 10 days of business to save our business for the year.

00:27:14.176 --> 00:27:20.348
So there's so much that we have to do there, but all I've wanted to do is just sit on the couch and hold my baby.

00:27:20.348 --> 00:27:21.551
You know what I mean.

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All the list of things that we need to get done and just, I mean, we have a crazy chaotic list of stuff to make happen in the next few weeks, and I think today was the first day I started to do some of those things.

00:27:38.432 --> 00:27:40.704
What are you laughing at?

00:27:42.521 --> 00:27:46.527
Her toes she's just flexing her toes and holding onto my finger like a monkey.

00:27:46.527 --> 00:27:47.813
Oh yeah, She'll hold hands with you with her hands and her toes.

00:27:47.833 --> 00:27:51.528
She's just flexing her toes and like holding onto my finger like a monkey, she'll hold hands with you with her hands on her toes.

00:27:51.840 --> 00:27:54.276
She's just the cutest I'm distracted.

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She's taking on the world.

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That was pretty easy.

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Yeah, get your fist up, baby.

00:27:59.791 --> 00:28:02.569
It'd be a lot cooler if this was a video podcast.

00:28:02.589 --> 00:28:04.865
Yeah, you would see her interactions.

00:28:06.790 --> 00:28:12.141
Yeah, I mean this week has been it's, it's been great, it really has been.

00:28:12.141 --> 00:28:15.946
Um I I don't really know.

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Everyone has their opinion and everyone has their um thought process on how um, like newborn adjustment goes.

00:28:28.773 --> 00:28:51.708
And of course you take everybody's thoughts and recommendations with a grain of salt because we're going to do what's best for our family and some information has been helpful and some has not been so helpful, but I mean, overall we're really blessed she is.

00:28:51.708 --> 00:28:56.469
We've pretty much got her schedule for the most part under wraps.

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We know, like you know, every two to three hours she needs to eat, she wants to diaper change and I mean she doesn't mind being in her bassinet, she doesn't mind being in her swing, she loves to be held.

00:29:07.727 --> 00:29:21.875
Overall, I will say, hands down, someone, a few someones, I should say upstairs definitely picked her and brought her right to us For sure.

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She's been such a good baby that I feel like you know I look at things on a spiritual side, and she's been such a good baby that I feel like you know I look at things on a spiritual side, and I feel like my dad would know better than anybody what I'm prepared for, what I'm capable of and what I'm not prepared for and what I can't possibly handle.

00:29:36.669 --> 00:29:42.913
And he sent me a baby that gives me a fighting chance at being a successful dad.

00:29:42.913 --> 00:29:47.316
You know, I think that that's been tremendous.

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And as you were talking about advice and taking advice, I mean listen to everybody.

00:29:56.622 --> 00:29:59.170
We don't turn down anyone, but the truth is that some people's advice is jaded because, they didn't

00:29:59.190 --> 00:30:00.775
have the greatest experience with one of their kids.

00:30:00.775 --> 00:30:02.463
So they're going to tell you the horror stories.

00:30:02.463 --> 00:30:18.068
They're not going to share all the positive ones, and it's nice to understand and know that there's bad days out there too, because if you didn't hear some of those stories and then you were having a difficult experience, you would think like am I the only one that has this story, because everybody else told me that theirs were great.

00:30:18.068 --> 00:30:29.863
But what I'm trying to get at is that some people had, you know, an extremely difficult first week at home or first month at home, and those are the stories that we hear about.

00:30:29.863 --> 00:30:44.040
So when we tell somebody that, like, hey, things are going great, when you tell somebody that had a difficult delivery, that yours was tremendous and you went in the delivery hall of fame at the hospital for the week, like some people, just stop talking to us.

00:30:44.141 --> 00:30:45.403
They just don't want to hear it anymore.

00:30:45.403 --> 00:30:51.232
I got the same reaction when I told people that I was having a great pregnancy and I had heartburn.

00:30:51.232 --> 00:30:53.365
Yeah, it was just the same thing.

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Some people are like, oh my God, I'm so happy for you, you're blessed, that's great.

00:30:56.990 --> 00:30:59.548
Other people are just like Fuck off, yeah.

00:31:00.300 --> 00:31:02.488
I have literally had people just walk away.

00:31:03.009 --> 00:31:15.355
Yes, and you're like excuse me we've been telling the story of the birth and just see somebody, just okay, and see you like yeah, you know, I'm like I don't, I don't even know.

00:31:15.394 --> 00:31:22.811
Like I'm like it was fine, like I like, like I try to like judge, like who's asking, like do they really care?

00:31:22.811 --> 00:31:23.333
Like is it?

00:31:23.433 --> 00:31:27.907
I don't, I don't know yeah, I've kind of scaled things as to like, am I going to give you the full story?

00:31:27.907 --> 00:31:35.931
Do you really want to hear the full story, or you're just being polite, and that was at that point it was like it was great man, you know everything was tremendous and we're blessed.

00:31:35.931 --> 00:31:38.431
We're good, everyone they probe on something you keep talking about.

00:31:38.431 --> 00:31:49.000
Sometimes people probe because they're hoping for a negative and when you deliver them a bunch of positive, they just are like go fuck yourself, fuck off yeah, so that's yeah it is what it is.

00:31:49.040 --> 00:32:06.883
It's surprising some people in your life that are close to you that, like they've been rooting for you, they've been on your corner, they're always supporting you, but when you give them like this barrel of positivity, yeah they're almost like why, screw you and it's like why were you so supportive?

00:32:06.883 --> 00:32:10.051
Would you close to me because you wanted to see me fail?

00:32:10.051 --> 00:32:12.147
Were you close to me because you wanted to see me struggle?

00:32:12.147 --> 00:32:14.855
Because you could be just happy for us?

00:32:14.996 --> 00:32:22.241
you know yeah, so it's weird, but I know that, like everything in life, when there's major changes in life, you're going to learn things about people that are around you.

00:32:22.241 --> 00:32:29.369
You know what I mean and I'm not saying that we've lost friends over this, but I'm just saying that there's been some surprising reactions to things.

00:32:30.250 --> 00:32:31.492
I agree, for sure yeah.

00:32:31.853 --> 00:32:32.232
It's funny.

00:32:32.232 --> 00:32:34.756
I was having a conversation with Brian earlier.

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Bill BP called me and we were shooting the shit and we were having this conversation and he said to me he's like dude, you know what the thing is?

00:32:40.807 --> 00:32:42.666
Women are just awful to each other, dude.

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Women are terrible.

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This is why I don't have girlfriends and I was like, well, you're not wrong, it's like, it's like dude, women are just awful to each other all the time, you know, like if someone's scenario is better than theirs and I'm not profiling everybody here, but a lot of times there's women that are have friendships that they have a great friendship as long as they feel they're a little bit on top.

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You know what I mean.

00:33:06.827 --> 00:33:08.953
So I don't know, Interesting conversation.

00:33:08.993 --> 00:33:10.839
No, you're accurate 100%.

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Like women are terrible.

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Like it doesn't matter the scenario, like it could be something as simple as like a paper cut.

00:33:17.359 --> 00:33:21.090
But you got a paper cut that's so deep and you needed stitches.

00:33:22.663 --> 00:33:23.306
Like you want to.

00:33:23.619 --> 00:33:30.034
Like that's how catty women are, like this is right here is exactly why I don't have girlfriends.

00:33:30.034 --> 00:33:42.715
And, if I do, they're the easiest women relationships that like natural correct, organic friendships yeah.

00:33:42.900 --> 00:33:46.469
Like me and Michelle, like we literally like met at Pete's.

00:33:46.469 --> 00:34:01.913
Like neither one of us were looking for friends we joke about it all the time but like we naturally just became like really close because we're both the same kind of person Like I'm not here to one up you, I'm also not here to judge you.

00:34:01.913 --> 00:34:15.563
Like I have my own shit going on and I have my own baggage and like, but if you want to chill and hang out and like judgment free, like fuck, yeah, I'm down for that like and she's like in my corner just as much as I'm in her corner.

00:34:15.563 --> 00:34:18.911
Like there's no competition, like at all whatsoever.

00:34:18.911 --> 00:34:23.349
And those are the type of friendships that I like to hold, like so close to me, because I'm just like.

00:34:23.349 --> 00:34:32.443
Those are the type of people that you need when you're going through these life events You're getting married, you're having a baby because that's when you learn who your true friends are.

00:34:34.666 --> 00:34:35.268
That's so true.

00:34:35.268 --> 00:34:38.981
There's a term that I've coined, that I've come up with on my own.

00:34:38.981 --> 00:34:45.146
That's a very vulgar, derogatory little phrase here, but I think it perfectly describes this particular situation.

00:34:45.568 --> 00:34:45.931
Hold on.

00:34:45.931 --> 00:34:48.621
Let me put put paisley's earmuffs on yeah, could you please?

00:34:48.681 --> 00:34:49.101
I don't want to.

00:34:49.101 --> 00:34:50.224
They're good.

00:34:50.224 --> 00:34:52.710
Yep, it's a dick measuring contest.

00:34:52.710 --> 00:35:01.452
That's what so many people live their life that way, so many people live their life this way, and it's um, it doesn't matter the situation, right?

00:35:01.452 --> 00:35:08.481
Friends or co-workers, colleagues, whatever you know being vendors as we are right now, like that's our life, we're on the road.

00:35:08.481 --> 00:35:12.271
Other vendors want to come over and compare their display to yours.

00:35:12.271 --> 00:35:26.989
They want to compare their day to yours, they want to compare their success to yours, their next event to yours and, um, you know, if yours if they feel like you're gloating about yours or yours is just a little bit bigger than theirs, then they're going to tell you how much wider theirs is.

00:35:26.989 --> 00:35:27.512
You know what I mean.

00:35:27.512 --> 00:35:33.400
It's obnoxious, dude, and it can be like I come from the motorcycle world, right?

00:35:33.400 --> 00:35:41.849
So my motorcycle, my Harley-Davidson Street Glide, is one year newer than yours and I've got one more piece of chrome than yours.

00:35:41.849 --> 00:35:45.027
We don't need to live our lives measuring our wankers.

00:35:45.429 --> 00:35:45.550
No.

00:35:45.730 --> 00:36:01.561
We really don't and, being parents, there's a lot of wanker measuring that goes on, because anytime you share your story, you open yourself up to 20 and a five and a half minutes of their story on how their experience went when you didn't ask for theirs, but they asked for yours.

00:36:01.581 --> 00:36:03.182
Speaking of Michelle Speaking of Michelle.

00:36:03.182 --> 00:36:18.273
Michelle has we joke about this all the time because we have a few people that are not our friends but they're acquaintances and they always love to kind of one-up.

00:36:18.273 --> 00:36:22.818
You or have will ask you a question about like, for instance, like how was your weekend?

00:36:22.818 --> 00:36:23.177
And like.

00:36:23.177 --> 00:36:31.409
Before you can even start to answer, like, they will literally just like scoot in and like tell you their story yeah, nudge you over so, yeah, they don't even care.

00:36:31.489 --> 00:36:34.413
They don't care what your answer is, but they just want to tell you their story.

00:36:34.413 --> 00:36:39.268
So michelle will always say they don't live three feet out of their own circle.

00:36:39.268 --> 00:36:41.735
And you're like, okay, makes sense.

00:36:41.735 --> 00:36:43.780
I see you, I got that.

00:36:43.780 --> 00:36:44.902
That makes valid sense.

00:36:44.902 --> 00:36:49.289
Like you're just like facts, facts so true.

00:36:50.733 --> 00:36:57.572
I also feel like when you're sharing our story, like I kind of gauge the situation and go do you really want to hear?

00:36:57.572 --> 00:37:18.663
Or and I'm not saying it in a bad way- no like because I think that there's some people like you tread lightly on asking questions, and I'll put it this way I've, previous to being a parent, entering a conversation with a friend that is a parent, and I understand.

00:37:18.663 --> 00:37:20.889
When you have a child, your life changes.

00:37:20.889 --> 00:37:22.432
You revolve around that child right.

00:37:23.001 --> 00:37:30.213
So up until the ripe old age of nearly 42, I've been the single dude right.

00:37:30.601 --> 00:37:37.327
Like, as far as you know, well, I mean, I've been married for a few years now but like, not a parent, not a dad, right?

00:37:37.327 --> 00:37:44.342
So I went the longest time as, like he's unmarried and doesn't have a kid, you shouldn't hang out with him.

00:37:44.342 --> 00:37:44.864
You know what I mean.

00:37:44.864 --> 00:37:48.391
To then like, okay, he's married, he's doing great, but he's never going to have a kid.

00:37:48.391 --> 00:37:59.847
So what I'm getting at here is, a lot of times I would enter in a conversation with somebody that their entire life revolved around their kids and you would tread lightly on asking the questions, because as soon as it's like, oh, how's this?

00:37:59.847 --> 00:38:08.621
When I'm asking them about how they're doing, they just want to talk about their kid.

00:38:08.621 --> 00:38:13.311
And if they haven't seen me in a while, they want to give me the screenshot summary on what the past 24 months of life has been.

00:38:13.452 --> 00:38:17.766
You know what I mean and I'm like bro, I'm just ordering an iced coffee, you know.

00:38:17.766 --> 00:38:29.143
So I don't want to be that guy that, like just you know, I don't know projectileits, positivity and life stories about their child and what they're doing.

00:38:29.143 --> 00:38:34.702
So, um, it's just one of those things where, like, I kind of want to gauge the conversation.

00:38:34.702 --> 00:38:40.925
I don't want to over indulge, I don't want to overspeak because I don't want to bore the freaking eyeballs off it either.

00:38:40.925 --> 00:38:44.625
You know what I'm saying, which I feel like I've been.

00:38:44.625 --> 00:38:57.949
I've been the single guy with no kids that's had to listen to the conversation that I really didn't want to be a part of and still pretend to be, like, really interested, because you care about the person and you're happy for the person.

00:38:57.949 --> 00:39:04.264
So I know there's people out there that are happy for us and they care about us, but they don't really care to hear all the details either you know what I'm saying so.

00:39:04.304 --> 00:39:13.829
I just try to gauge where that conversation is, if someone's really leading into it and they want to know, because I've been overwhelmingly surprised by how many people really care that you're having a child.

00:39:13.829 --> 00:39:14.791
It's crazy to me.

00:39:15.532 --> 00:39:16.519
Yeah, seriously Like.

00:39:16.601 --> 00:39:19.530
I was never the person that cared about other people having kids Like I didn't.

00:39:19.530 --> 00:39:21.141
I was like oh, hey, congratulations Cool.

00:39:21.141 --> 00:39:22.963
Probably won't see you at the bar for a while.

00:39:23.023 --> 00:39:23.905
Like, that's how I looked at it.

00:39:23.905 --> 00:39:24.284
You know what I?

00:39:24.304 --> 00:39:32.195
mean, but it's unbelievable how supportive people are that find out like you're having a baby.

00:39:32.195 --> 00:39:38.152
I mean complete strangers, have given you a ton of baby stuff because you're like oh my God, you're having a child here.

00:39:38.152 --> 00:39:38.601
Take this.

00:39:38.760 --> 00:39:40.405
Yeah, I don't need this anymore.

00:39:40.405 --> 00:39:41.588
Yeah, it's crazy.

00:39:41.588 --> 00:39:42.088
It's crazy.

00:39:42.590 --> 00:39:50.653
And then people that you haven't seen or heard from in the longest time, you know, calling you, texting you like, oh my God, I'm so happy for you, she's beautiful.

00:39:50.653 --> 00:39:53.548
Or people reaching out being like I haven't heard anything.

00:39:53.548 --> 00:39:55.164
You know, is everything okay?

00:39:55.164 --> 00:39:56.208
Did you have the baby yet?

00:39:56.208 --> 00:39:56.922
And you're like man.

00:39:56.922 --> 00:39:58.829
I can't believe how many people actually care.

00:39:59.079 --> 00:40:01.168
You know, like our baby shower was overwhelming.

00:40:01.168 --> 00:40:10.603
We had a conversation on here about that already, but it's wild to me how many people actually love and support you when they find out that you are having a child.

00:40:10.603 --> 00:40:11.443
So that's kind of crazy.

00:40:11.443 --> 00:40:11.985
That's a whole.

00:40:11.985 --> 00:40:17.686
I feel like you're taking a step into a sacred fraternity, sorority that we were never allowed in.

00:40:17.686 --> 00:40:18.547
You know what I'm saying?

00:40:18.547 --> 00:40:19.407
It's weird.

00:40:19.407 --> 00:40:26.630
You've reached a level of achievement where you're like, oh, let's welcome them and shower them with gifts and positivity now that they're here.

00:40:26.911 --> 00:40:30.992
We unlocked a whole new section in the Walmart and the.

00:40:31.032 --> 00:40:31.713
Target.

00:40:31.713 --> 00:40:32.652
That's true too.

00:40:32.652 --> 00:40:39.036
And the Mardons, the Mardons those of you from Maine, that's Mardons Came up with that today.

00:40:39.036 --> 00:40:44.518
I don't know, man, I feel like parents are like oh, you checked off the list of sleep deprived, oh yeah.

00:40:44.538 --> 00:40:45.199
You know what I mean?

00:40:45.199 --> 00:40:49.422
We sleep deprived, and oh yeah, we're.

00:40:49.422 --> 00:40:50.583
I mean, we are definitely sleep deprived.

00:40:50.583 --> 00:40:52.085
We are living off of caffeine chaos and cuss words.

00:40:52.106 --> 00:40:59.143
I haven't cutting back on my swearing personally um, anybody use the fuck counter for this.

00:40:59.143 --> 00:41:06.907
Uh, uh, she's sleeping so I don't count that and, um, maybe I'm sleeping too.

00:41:06.907 --> 00:41:07.690
I I'm not really sure.

00:41:07.690 --> 00:41:09.342
We're currently like you said.

00:41:09.342 --> 00:41:12.751
We're at that, you know, sleep for a couple hours, get up scenario.

00:41:12.751 --> 00:41:15.487
Going back to your patients.

00:41:15.887 --> 00:41:42.121
you know and I know we've kind of trailed off here back and forth on scenarios, but having the patience to get up every couple of hours support each other like try to help each other through those things like if you're, you know, there's been times where you know I haven't been up for all of them like you've, like you've, you know, got her up before the alarm and next thing, you know, like you're putting her back to bed and I'm like what the heck just happened here, you know, because we both get sleep deprived in those situations.

00:41:42.202 --> 00:41:48.393
Or it's a situation where, like, you get up in the morning, I go out there and take care of all the chores so you can take care of her and get back to bed.

00:41:48.393 --> 00:41:51.365
Or we get up and you're pumping and I'm feeding.

00:41:51.365 --> 00:41:52.809
You know what I mean.

00:41:53.311 --> 00:41:54.012
It's a team effort.

00:41:54.739 --> 00:41:59.811
I think that we've shown patience with her and patience with each other to be supportive of each other.

00:41:59.952 --> 00:42:00.233
For sure.

00:42:00.340 --> 00:42:03.423
To know when the other person is a little short, strong at that moment.

00:42:03.423 --> 00:42:16.409
And my big thing is we we were talking about saying we knew the challenge was gonna be patience and like for you the key of like, talking through something with her and how it's been helpful for both of you.

00:42:17.101 --> 00:42:18.887
For me when I get in some of those situations.

00:42:18.887 --> 00:42:30.487
I know that, even as being like an uncle growing up cause I was in the weird family like I was an uncle at like seven you know Crying kids made me anxious.

00:42:30.487 --> 00:42:37.425
You know like being in a public setting and being with someone, their babies crying, like it just built up anxiety in me.

00:42:37.485 --> 00:42:46.608
You know what I mean and like, even if I see complete strangers and their child's having a meltdown everybody's staring at them talking shit, judging my anxiety would go up for them, you know.

00:42:46.608 --> 00:42:59.581
So I knew that would be a struggle for me and um, really just calming myself down and being able to sit through the freakouts not that she's had a bunch of them, but, but she'll have meltdowns when she goes into straight lobster mode.

00:42:59.601 --> 00:43:07.369
She goes rock lobster, she's all we're just trying to figure out what those are because, yeah, we're trying to understand it but like, yeah, I'm not saying anything negative of her.

00:43:07.409 --> 00:43:14.085
I'm just saying that like I knew, going into this that my trigger was going to be crying, screaming baby for attention.

00:43:14.085 --> 00:43:17.257
Yeah, you know, I have a hard time figuring those things out.

00:43:17.257 --> 00:43:20.367
So I feel, like I've been able to, you know, giving myself some grace.

00:43:20.427 --> 00:43:35.367
I've had a lot more patience with that than than I expected you know, I would like like to take a moment and give a weekly Wednesday shout out.

00:43:35.367 --> 00:43:37.728
Really, yeah, I would, I would.

00:43:38.168 --> 00:43:38.427
To who?

00:43:38.807 --> 00:43:39.007
You.

00:43:39.469 --> 00:43:39.989
Cut it out.

00:43:39.989 --> 00:43:41.168
Yeah, make me blush.

00:43:41.469 --> 00:43:58.538
Yeah, I think it's really important to focus on how important it is for moms out there to have a support group, and not everyone is as blessed as I am to have a partner like you.

00:44:00.420 --> 00:44:00.541
Oh.

00:44:01.123 --> 00:44:05.902
Hannah, I'm beyond blessed.

00:44:05.902 --> 00:44:15.849
I have Paisley and I have you, and I couldn't imagine doing this dance and starting this journey with anyone else other than you.

00:44:15.909 --> 00:44:16.851
Oh, you're too sweet.

00:44:16.851 --> 00:44:18.666
Are you cutting onions?

00:44:18.666 --> 00:44:20.016
Yeah?

00:44:20.097 --> 00:44:20.239
I am.

00:44:20.702 --> 00:44:21.465
I'm allergic to onions.

00:44:21.465 --> 00:44:24.293
Stop cutting onions oh my god.

00:44:24.775 --> 00:44:25.340
I love you dear.

00:44:25.340 --> 00:44:30.521
Trust me, I couldn't do this without you, and I mean I wouldn't have wanted to do with anybody.

00:44:30.521 --> 00:44:39.880
You're the first person in my life where I ever considered even you know the thought and possibility of having a child, never mind being here, having someone pissing my hand.

00:44:39.880 --> 00:44:40.541
You know what I mean.

00:44:40.541 --> 00:44:45.369
So, like it's, um, I know I couldn't.

00:44:45.369 --> 00:44:46.210
I couldn't do without you.

00:44:46.210 --> 00:44:53.711
There was a, there was a moment where we had I don't remember what the heck the situation was, I can't remember, I just remember the dialogue.

00:44:53.711 --> 00:44:56.706
I don't know if we were on the phone, I don't know if it was home.

00:44:56.706 --> 00:45:04.523
There was something where, like you were like having a moment where you were freaking out a little bit about something and I said, hey, pull yourself together.

00:45:04.523 --> 00:45:07.827
In this situation I'm the weak one.

00:45:08.206 --> 00:45:10.949
When all of a sudden, I am the sensible one.

00:45:10.949 --> 00:45:12.570
This shit is going to hell.

00:45:12.769 --> 00:45:20.416
It happened in the hospital before we left, when they said, all right, you're good to go home, and I was like, wait a minute, wait a minute, hold on.

00:45:20.436 --> 00:45:21.217
You were having a freak out.

00:45:23.199 --> 00:45:25.844
That's it is you were like I don't know if I have what it takes to be a mom.

00:45:25.864 --> 00:45:27.027
You're a second guess and everything and.

00:45:27.027 --> 00:45:33.650
I said listen, you straighten yourself up, because I'm the weak one and the moment that I'm driving the ship, this fucking ship is going down.

00:45:33.650 --> 00:45:36.007
So you better freaking straighten it up.

00:45:36.007 --> 00:45:39.086
I mean, we got to check each other once in a while.

00:45:39.126 --> 00:45:39.367
Yeah.

00:45:39.780 --> 00:45:43.726
But the point is is that you've been an amazing mom this entire time.

00:45:43.726 --> 00:45:55.262
Thank you, mom this entire time I've been extremely, uh, impressed and surprised by your patience, your, your dedication through all of this.

00:45:55.262 --> 00:46:02.646
You're up every couple of hours pumping your track and everything You're I mean you're any little thing with her like you've been on it you know, and and diagnosing it and figuring it out.

00:46:03.126 --> 00:46:19.092
And the other thing that I really appreciate about this whole situation has been the fact that you've allowed me to voice my opinion, and I feel like a lot of moms in a situation would be like nope, this is how it is, this is how it's going to go, and we might not always agree.

00:46:19.092 --> 00:46:22.807
But, like you, let me voice out why, how I feel about something.

00:46:22.807 --> 00:46:32.534
Sometimes you take my direction, other times you tell me why you think we shouldn't, and just you know, and I've been very transparent in the fact that, like I don't, I don't know.

00:46:32.534 --> 00:46:35.909
This is just what I'm observing and this is what, what I think you know.

00:46:36.009 --> 00:46:47.588
So, um, and I'm thankful that you know you are here, um, and you have the ability to um, have the patience to walk through all of these situations.

00:46:47.588 --> 00:46:51.405
Sometimes, you know she's only a week old and we don't know what she's crying about.

00:46:51.405 --> 00:46:56.190
But we're going to go through the checks and balances, we're going to check the app and see, you know, does she need a feeding?

00:46:56.190 --> 00:46:56.731
Does she not?

00:46:56.731 --> 00:47:05.567
Like you know, and like like this morning, like it was a situation where it was like, all right, I had just pumped and the bottle was ready for her.

00:47:05.567 --> 00:47:07.956
And you're like all right, I had just pumped and the bottle was ready for her.

00:47:07.956 --> 00:47:10.407
And you're like all right, we need to do the barn tours.

00:47:10.407 --> 00:47:11.289
Do you want me to go do them?

00:47:11.289 --> 00:47:13.806
And I was like, no, I think I want to go do them.

00:47:13.847 --> 00:47:35.351
And it was just so nice to have like just a couple of minutes to be able to just be like out in the barn and just have like a moment for myself, like because it's important to take care of yourself while you're dealing with the transition of being new parents or adding a parent, adding a child to your life.

00:47:35.351 --> 00:47:38.293
You know, like if you had a second one or something like that.

00:47:38.293 --> 00:47:47.309
Like taking care of yourself is very important when it comes to, like you know, postpartum, postpartum scares the shit out of me, like scares the fucking shit out of me.

00:47:47.309 --> 00:47:50.824
Postpartum, postpartum scares the shit out of me like scares the fucking shit out of me.

00:47:50.824 --> 00:47:55.012
So, being able to have the patients have a good support group and you know we're, we're blessed.

00:47:55.032 --> 00:48:01.503
When it comes to having your mom next door, like you know, she's constantly over, wants to hold the baby, wants to help out.

00:48:01.503 --> 00:48:06.619
Like you know, if it wasn't for that, like we, we might be in a different situation.

00:48:06.619 --> 00:48:08.043
You know, because it gives us the opportunity for her, we might be in a different situation.

00:48:08.043 --> 00:48:13.922
You know, because it gives us the opportunity for her to come over and and hang out with paisley and we go and do the barn chores together.

00:48:13.922 --> 00:48:23.869
You know it's, it's nice, um, but I I think it's really important for you to know that I'm that I'm very proud of you and I think that you've done an amazing job.

00:48:23.869 --> 00:48:31.313
Um, I think that she already has her daddy wrapped around her little finger and has softened you up.

00:48:31.313 --> 00:48:36.811
You were already soft, but she's kind of softened you up a little bit more.

00:48:37.661 --> 00:48:39.728
You better use your inside voice, you'll end up outside.

00:48:41.320 --> 00:48:54.594
But it is really refreshing that every couple of hours, when I do wake up, um, even if it is early before the alarm and I'm out here and you happen to wake up, you'll be like, hey, do you need anything?

00:48:54.594 --> 00:48:57.483
Like there's not much that you can do.

00:48:58.164 --> 00:49:00.891
Sometimes when it comes to like breastfeeding and stuff like that.

00:49:00.891 --> 00:49:06.902
But you know you're always there, you're always asking and checking in and I'll tell you like yeah, yeah, you're not here.

00:49:06.902 --> 00:49:09.851
Um, you know, like, could you just grab me some water?

00:49:09.851 --> 00:49:15.452
Like that sometimes, like, if you're locked into a pump, like that sometimes is all you need.

00:49:16.420 --> 00:49:18.284
You know it was leading up to this.

00:49:18.284 --> 00:49:39.121
Like everybody jokes around and you have these stories and conversations and, ultimately, like I feel like, as a man, you come to a point where you just take something's personal and and you know, hearing all the jokes of like, oh, you're gonna pass out on the delivery room or you're not gonna be able to see this or do that, like I was in, my mind was like, I'm not worried about that one bit.

00:49:39.141 --> 00:49:40.947
That's not the that's not the point.

00:49:40.947 --> 00:49:45.067
And then, and all the people that were like oh you're, you know you're, I can't imagine you're.

00:49:45.067 --> 00:49:47.034
I can't imagine you changing diapers.

00:49:47.034 --> 00:49:49.123
I can't see you doing this and that.

00:49:49.123 --> 00:49:54.943
And it was like you know I, this was my decision too you know like I'm going to do those things.

00:49:54.943 --> 00:50:07.572
And I'm very proud to say that, like, not only was I, um, not only did I watch every single bit of my baby being brought into this world, but I held your damn legs while you put you know what.

00:50:07.592 --> 00:50:08.393
I mean you did yes.

00:50:08.434 --> 00:50:13.788
Like, um, I've already had my kid piss in my hand while I was feeding her.

00:50:13.788 --> 00:50:14.369
You know what I mean.

00:50:14.369 --> 00:50:14.831
Like I'm not.

00:50:14.831 --> 00:50:17.646
I mean I've changed diapers.

00:50:17.646 --> 00:50:18.945
I mix bottles.

00:50:19.019 --> 00:50:22.329
I do all those things because, I feel like that's what a dad should do.

00:50:22.329 --> 00:50:28.456
My mitts might be a little too big to put all the diapers on, because she's too damn tiny, but I will be.

00:50:28.456 --> 00:50:29.777
You're an amazing support to us.

00:50:29.777 --> 00:50:32.181
Hell or high water.

00:50:32.181 --> 00:50:42.570
I would never want to have the reputation of like a show about dad, Somebody that just does things when other people are around.

00:50:42.570 --> 00:50:43.130
You know what I mean.

00:50:43.231 --> 00:50:44.713
Yeah, for sure, gotcha.

00:50:45.400 --> 00:50:53.800
I just know enough people that wouldn't want to waste an opportunity to have a child and do those things that can't have a child you know what I'm saying.

00:50:54.121 --> 00:51:01.463
Like I think about those people and, um, like I think about like how important the little moments were with my dad.

00:51:01.463 --> 00:51:16.061
All those things run through my mind and I think about like it's tough, man, sometimes when you're in that position where you're like I don't really want to get up or I don't really want to do this, you just get up and do it and I just think, like you know, it's just, it's weird to say, but I think, like what would my dad do in a situation?

00:51:16.242 --> 00:51:16.724
you know what I mean?

00:51:16.724 --> 00:51:25.250
Right and uh, you just he'd roll over and go back to sleep because he never changed any diapers no, my that's not, I'm just kidding my mom lets you joke about that stuff.

00:51:25.269 --> 00:51:37.871
But I mean, like, if I'm just kidding, like I said it to you today, like I was like as much as you think that I sit here on this couch with this baby, I can only imagine what my dad would have been like oh you know, and I never thought so.

00:51:38.072 --> 00:51:38.432
Here's a.

00:51:38.432 --> 00:51:39.583
Here's a confession for you.

00:51:39.583 --> 00:51:49.463
If I'm going to put my hand on the cabela's catalog and out of the sky and give me some truth from this guy, as much as I knew that I would want to contribute, I didn't know if I would be able to contribute.

00:51:49.463 --> 00:51:51.820
So I'm proud of myself for being able to do some of those things.

00:51:51.820 --> 00:52:06.746
But like there was a part of my mind that said, hey, man, you might want to be on the road when you have a little one, because you don't know if you have the emotional capacity to handle it.

00:52:06.746 --> 00:52:18.237
And what I mean by that is that, like I said to you, sometimes crying babies give me anxiety, right, sometimes those public settings like really give me anxiety, like some of those things.

00:52:18.237 --> 00:52:21.929
And I'm sharing these things and saying these things because there's probably a lot of people out there that feel the same way.

00:52:22.000 --> 00:52:23.025
We just don't want to say them.

00:52:23.661 --> 00:52:53.105
And for me and my business and my career, it'd be very understandable and even okay for me to say, all right, babe, I'm going to fill my schedule and I'm going to be on the road because this is what our family needs, and not be home for some of these things or schedule breaks for me, so that I in my mind I thought like hey, maybe you're going to need to go on the road for some things because you might just need that mental break, and then you're going to come home and be refocused and ready to go.

00:52:53.105 --> 00:52:56.623
So in my mind I thought, like, are these some of the ways you're going to feel?

00:52:56.623 --> 00:53:06.530
I'm not saying I was going to act on them, but in my mind it was like you might struggle so badly with this that you need to be on the road from time to time so that you don't have those breakdowns.

00:53:06.530 --> 00:53:10.054
The absolute opposite is what's been happening to me.

00:53:10.054 --> 00:53:19.550
I'm scared to go on the road, I'm scared to miss the moments, I'm scared to miss the opportunity to make those memories.

00:53:20.382 --> 00:53:22.007
I think about all those things all the time.

00:53:22.007 --> 00:53:24.588
I'm nervous just to even be away for a few days for the fair in a few weeks.

00:53:24.588 --> 00:53:26.719
You know what I mean and like I'm nervous just to even be away for a few days for the fair in a few weeks.

00:53:26.719 --> 00:53:28.882
You know what I mean.

00:53:28.882 --> 00:53:32.190
Like and thinking about man in a few months.

00:53:32.190 --> 00:53:38.797
Do I want to be like in Florida for two or three weeks, away from my baby, like she's going to be a whole different person when I get back.

00:53:38.797 --> 00:53:39.219
You know what I mean.

00:53:39.219 --> 00:53:54.293
Like you think about these things and you beat yourself up and I say this so much because I have been paralyzed to the couch for a week because all I've wanted to do is stare at my child the entire time Like it's crazy she's just so cute.

00:53:54.594 --> 00:53:55.175
She is cute.

00:53:55.175 --> 00:54:03.061
It's crazy to think that you just you could sit there and just watch someone's facial expressions and hours pass by.

00:54:03.061 --> 00:54:12.186
I've had a multitude of things that I told myself I needed to do, that I know I needed to do, and every day it started off the same way.

00:54:12.186 --> 00:54:13.445
Hey, let's write a list.

00:54:13.445 --> 00:54:14.248
This is what I'm doing today.

00:54:14.539 --> 00:54:16.086
Yeah, that list has been there for a week.

00:54:16.086 --> 00:54:18.945
I think, we crossed off a couple of things.

00:54:18.945 --> 00:54:22.192
We're starting to we're getting there it's coming.

00:54:22.192 --> 00:54:22.753
We're getting there.

00:54:22.753 --> 00:54:25.106
I only got 10 weeks.

00:54:28.559 --> 00:54:29.403
Well, I'm not worried about the 10 weeks.

00:54:29.423 --> 00:54:30.007
I'm worried about a few weeks.

00:54:30.007 --> 00:54:31.673
I am because I don't even want to think about going back to work.

00:54:32.538 --> 00:54:32.699
Yeah.

00:54:32.699 --> 00:54:35.286
So what I'm saying is hitting home for you at the same time.

00:54:35.286 --> 00:54:37.211
You know you get to come home every night.

00:54:37.211 --> 00:54:40.164
I won't you know what I mean, but but you're also could be leaving every day.

00:54:40.164 --> 00:54:41.746
And that's part of the struggle, right?

00:54:41.746 --> 00:54:48.615
Because it's like, hey, for me it's's, do I go get a nine to five at home and then every night I come home to my baby.

00:54:48.615 --> 00:54:56.266
I can mow the lawn, I can play on the tractor, I can feed the horse, I can paint the fence and I can I can raise the kid, but every day I'm leaving from nine to five.

00:54:56.266 --> 00:54:58.932
Or do I do the business?

00:54:58.932 --> 00:55:06.110
I have now where I might be on the road for a week or two, but then I might be home 24 hours a day for two weeks?

00:55:06.492 --> 00:55:06.672
Right.

00:55:07.193 --> 00:55:08.275
Which is the best way to go?

00:55:08.275 --> 00:55:19.367
And that's hard to say and hard to understand and ultimately I'm going to do whatever is best for the family and I'm holding on to this dream because I really want the memory and the opportunity for Paisley to grow up in what we're doing.

00:55:19.728 --> 00:55:20.150
Absolutely.

00:55:20.400 --> 00:55:22.422
Because I think it's a very unique way to grow up.

00:55:22.422 --> 00:55:34.376
And that's one of the reasons why I'm going to continue to try to do what it is that I'm doing, but as hell-bent as I am on success and motivated to get all those things done, I've been paralyzed by the couch.

00:55:34.376 --> 00:55:37.789
And not because I'm being lazy, like I'm not sleeping, that's a fact.

00:55:38.030 --> 00:55:40.418
No, we're not sleeping, you're holding the baby.

00:55:40.480 --> 00:55:44.322
I'm just staring at my fucking kid sleep dude You're staring at the baby and holding her.

00:55:44.382 --> 00:55:49.126
And You're staring at the baby and holding her and I'm running around here doing projects because I'm like I'm not holding the baby right now.

00:55:49.126 --> 00:55:59.157
I'm like let me organize some baby onesies or reorganize the Tupperware container drawer because it's been overflowing.

00:55:59.157 --> 00:56:01.880
It's been nice.

00:56:01.880 --> 00:56:09.847
Again, I go back to thanking you for being here because it's amazing support, like amazing support.

00:56:09.867 --> 00:56:13.789
The timing, the way things have gone have worked out, because we're like all right hey.

00:56:14.289 --> 00:56:26.862
Even if it's like I'm going to take a whole week and just do whatever that baby needs us to do and whatever each other needs to do, and be in this living room with her, then that is what it is and I feel great about doing that and I don't want to miss.

00:56:26.862 --> 00:56:31.079
Like you, you battle that in in your mind, that subconscious thought of, like what if I missed this?

00:56:31.079 --> 00:56:33.125
She's only this small for so long, only these.

00:56:33.125 --> 00:56:33.887
You know what I mean.

00:56:33.887 --> 00:56:42.233
I'm trying to like, take as many like mental um just time capsules as possible, but it's been the same thing like every morning.

00:56:42.293 --> 00:56:51.344
I get up, so this is what I'm going to do today, and then it's like, you know, you know what I'll, I'll, I'll feed her, and then I feed her and then I'm sitting on the couch and I'm like, oh, I'm going to let her get comfortable first.

00:56:51.344 --> 00:56:54.920
And the next thing I know you're like, hey, can I have the baby?

00:56:54.920 --> 00:56:56.181
And I'm like, yeah, sure, what's up?

00:56:56.181 --> 00:56:59.244
And you're like I gotta, I gotta, how beautiful and perfect your child is.

00:56:59.244 --> 00:57:01.746
And thinking like, oh, my God, we did this.

00:57:01.746 --> 00:57:21.695
It's crazy and that's not something I ever in a million years expected for me, because I always thought that little babies are little aliens.

00:57:22.902 --> 00:57:32.304
They creep me out, and when we first got together 10 years ago, it was not a conversation I remember specifically.

00:57:32.304 --> 00:57:33.608
You're like I don't want kids.

00:57:33.608 --> 00:57:34.510
Yeah.

00:57:35.141 --> 00:57:52.164
Which was so hard for me to wrap my head around, for the simple fact that, as a little girl, you always think about getting married, happy ending, being a mom doing all the things, and so it was one of those situations where it's like, yeah, okay, whatever.

00:57:52.164 --> 00:57:56.197
We were young and I was like we'll talk about it, we'll think about it.

00:57:56.197 --> 00:57:58.155
And now look at us.

00:57:58.155 --> 00:58:00.737
We were walking out of the store.

00:58:00.909 --> 00:58:03.858
Some relationships end because they can't get over that conversation either.

00:58:03.898 --> 00:58:04.199
You know what I?

00:58:04.219 --> 00:58:04.701
mean Like that.

00:58:04.701 --> 00:58:06.436
That happens a lot, like I.

00:58:06.436 --> 00:58:26.916
I know multitude of people that scenarios happen, but it's like you know, if you love each other, then you should be able to have enough conversations through and compromise and figure things out and through and compromise and figure things out and hopefully it all, it all works out.

00:58:26.916 --> 00:58:34.945
You know, and um, I think that a lot of it comes down to the person in that situation and that in that position in that time might not have ever envisioned that, that scenario for themselves, like I never envisioned kids for myself, because I, um number one.

00:58:34.945 --> 00:58:39.480
I wasn't at a point in life where I thought I wanted to, like, stop all the crazy things I was doing.

00:58:39.480 --> 00:58:48.257
You know, I had to get to a point in life where it was like, if I'm going to do this, now is the time, but think about it, we had that conversation 10 years ago.

00:58:48.257 --> 00:58:49.514
I wasn't ready 10 years ago.

00:58:49.731 --> 00:58:51.056
So, that was a definite no right.

00:58:51.056 --> 00:58:54.199
You think about anybody that had the conversation with me before you.

00:58:54.199 --> 00:58:55.811
We're talking 20 years ago.

00:58:55.811 --> 00:58:57.313
That was a big old hell.

00:58:57.313 --> 00:58:57.954
No, you know.

00:58:57.954 --> 00:59:02.661
But everything for some people, everything has to be right.

00:59:02.661 --> 00:59:16.027
It has to be the right person, the right time, the right opportunity, you know, and when you have the right person and you know, eventually you'll have the right time.

00:59:16.027 --> 00:59:20.773
And thankfully we did, and I'm so blessed and thankful that this has happened.

00:59:20.773 --> 00:59:30.920
And now it's the ever-loving ending saga of protecting and keeping that little one safe and giving her every opportunity that we've had or never had.

00:59:30.920 --> 00:59:31.500
You know what I mean.

00:59:32.581 --> 00:59:33.902
I agree For sure.

00:59:33.981 --> 00:59:34.641
I don't know, it's crazy sure.

00:59:34.641 --> 00:59:36.543
I don't know.

00:59:36.943 --> 00:59:37.423
It's crazy.

00:59:38.184 --> 00:59:39.405
I've realized that.

00:59:39.405 --> 00:59:52.797
Maybe it's because physically, emotionally, mentally, I can't worry about anything outside of the next three hours, because that's the schedule that we're living off of.

00:59:52.797 --> 00:59:53.800
Maybe this is why this happens.

00:59:53.800 --> 01:00:00.422
Maybe this is why babies come into this world and they have to eat and they have to sleep and they have to do everything every two, three hours.

01:00:00.422 --> 01:00:10.505
Because parents are so overwhelmed when they're bringing this child into the world that they're panicking and their anxieties aren't high because they're thinking about everything down the road.

01:00:10.610 --> 01:00:13.219
You're thinking about what's tomorrow going to be like?

01:00:13.219 --> 01:00:15.077
What's she going to be like in a year?

01:00:15.077 --> 01:00:17.016
What am I going to do about daycare?

01:00:17.016 --> 01:00:18.416
What about when I go back to work?

01:00:18.416 --> 01:00:19.914
What's college going to do about daycare?

01:00:19.914 --> 01:00:20.639
What about when I go back to work?

01:00:20.639 --> 01:00:21.505
You know what's college going to be like.

01:00:21.505 --> 01:00:22.128
Do I have to expand my house?

01:00:22.128 --> 01:00:23.112
How do I buy a first car?

01:00:23.574 --> 01:00:31.942
Parents get overwhelmed with all these things and that little sweet baby shows up and says screw you and your plans and your anxiety and your overthinking.

01:00:31.942 --> 01:00:32.411
You know why.

01:00:32.411 --> 01:00:43.425
Because all you can think about is the next three hours, because I'm going to run you so ragged, You're going to be so dead tired that all you can think about is feeding me, cleaning my ass and getting some sleep.

01:00:43.425 --> 01:00:48.240
I feel like it's the premise of a baby coming into this world and being raised.

01:00:48.240 --> 01:00:50.574
It's the same premise of boot camp in the military.

01:00:50.574 --> 01:00:54.632
We beat their ever-loving hell out of you so you can't worry and think about tomorrow.

01:00:54.632 --> 01:01:00.063
All you do is live for that moment, in that moment, to get through that moment, and that's what this baby's doing to us.

01:01:00.063 --> 01:01:02.197
She's got us in boot camp, damn it.

01:01:02.730 --> 01:01:04.697
Jesus created boot camp.

01:01:04.697 --> 01:01:06.315
That is what this is all about.

01:01:06.315 --> 01:01:07.572
I've cracked the code.

01:01:07.572 --> 01:01:11.442
This is the secret, makes sense.

01:01:11.442 --> 01:01:13.817
I never thought of that, ever.

01:01:13.817 --> 01:01:16.557
I didn't even pre-think of that before the show.

01:01:16.557 --> 01:01:17.320
That just happened.

01:01:17.320 --> 01:01:18.853
That just happened.

01:01:18.853 --> 01:01:20.418
Boot camp.

01:01:20.719 --> 01:01:21.181
There it is.

01:01:21.809 --> 01:01:24.659
I like to think that we're surviving boot camp.

01:01:25.018 --> 01:01:25.621
I think we are.

01:01:26.110 --> 01:01:30.416
That little girl's surviving boob camp, because that's what she's been going through.

01:01:30.697 --> 01:01:31.800
That makes sense.

01:01:31.800 --> 01:01:33.335
That's accurate.

01:01:33.335 --> 01:01:37.398
She thinks she's food deprived though half the time.

01:01:37.518 --> 01:01:38.280
Yeah, that is the truth.

01:01:38.701 --> 01:01:39.322
But she's not.

01:01:39.322 --> 01:01:40.476
She's food deprived though half the time.

01:01:40.476 --> 01:01:41.284
Yeah, that is the truth, but she's not.

01:01:41.284 --> 01:01:42.010
She's very much fed, she's happy.

01:01:42.010 --> 01:01:44.438
So over the course of the week, we've had ups and downs.

01:01:44.438 --> 01:01:46.570
I mean a lot more ups than downs.

01:01:46.570 --> 01:01:49.818
The only downs have been like oh my God, what does she want?

01:01:49.818 --> 01:01:50.460
You know what I mean?

01:01:50.460 --> 01:01:52.498
Like should we be alarmed about this?

01:01:52.498 --> 01:01:52.797
Like?

01:01:52.797 --> 01:01:56.201
We had a few instances with her umbilical cord that had us really nervous.

01:01:56.440 --> 01:01:59.382
We've had weigh-ins that have had us nervous.

01:01:59.382 --> 01:02:09.032
You're going to ride that roller coaster as a parent and it's going to be different for everybody, and when you're bringing a child home for the very first time, you're going to have to ride those waves and figure it out.

01:02:09.032 --> 01:02:17.217
But, as you said earlier, it's about patience and having enough patience and support to communicate and to be there for your partner, and I think that's really what we've done.

01:02:17.217 --> 01:02:29.101
We try to be patient with each other, we try to be patient with her to work through those things, and I think she is giving us a major college course education on patience and it's been great for both of us.

01:02:29.262 --> 01:02:29.784
I think so too.

01:02:30.730 --> 01:02:33.436
I think the key is the level of patience that we keep for her.

01:02:33.436 --> 01:02:34.539
We have to keep for each other.

01:02:34.920 --> 01:02:43.853
Uh-huh, you know 100%, absolutely you know, 100, absolutely.

01:02:43.873 --> 01:02:45.036
With that said, I think we're getting back on track.

01:02:45.036 --> 01:02:47.623
Um, you know, I gotta, I gotta say before I get rolling here I'm being back on track.

01:02:47.623 --> 01:02:54.260
Sunday was one of the best days that I think I've had in my life.

01:02:54.260 --> 01:02:58.632
Sunday was like a truly amazing day for me and I don't, and it's.

01:02:58.632 --> 01:03:09.340
This is gonna be weird and it's going to be, you know, silly and stupid for most people, but little minor things added up to me having an amazing Sunday.

01:03:09.619 --> 01:03:11.003
Okay, I'm listening.

01:03:11.003 --> 01:03:11.784
You didn't tell me this.

01:03:11.784 --> 01:03:14.398
This is news to my ears.

01:03:14.809 --> 01:03:15.956
I'm just going to throw this out there.

01:03:15.956 --> 01:03:19.820
So Sunday morning, yep, I wake up.

01:03:19.820 --> 01:03:21.815
Look at my little baby girl here.

01:03:22.016 --> 01:03:22.257
You do.

01:03:23.090 --> 01:03:24.697
One week on earth.

01:03:24.697 --> 01:03:29.739
Okay, she arrived one week ago.

01:03:29.739 --> 01:03:33.599
On that Sunday she arrived and I had no clue what to expect.

01:03:33.599 --> 01:03:37.297
No clue in the world, nothing but fears and anxiety.

01:03:37.297 --> 01:03:46.677
Right After a week, like I'm obviously madly in love and living a dream the three of us that I never imagined right.

01:03:47.030 --> 01:03:47.954
So I wake up to that.

01:03:47.954 --> 01:03:51.157
This is when it gets silly for some people.

01:03:51.157 --> 01:03:55.170
It's also opening day for the NFL.

01:03:55.170 --> 01:03:56.775
Oh God, here we go.

01:03:56.775 --> 01:04:01.338
It is the first game of the year for my Dallas Cowboys.

01:04:01.338 --> 01:04:03.193
It's going to be on TV.

01:04:03.193 --> 01:04:06.260
Yeah, four o'clock, okay, yeah.

01:04:06.260 --> 01:04:16.054
That morning, driving around getting coffee, I said, man, I just need to get an update today that Dak Prescott re-signs with the Cowboys.

01:04:16.896 --> 01:04:17.958
I just need that to happen.

01:04:17.958 --> 01:04:23.237
I'm home and I think did you and my mom go do something?

01:04:23.237 --> 01:04:25.061
You're up to something?

01:04:25.061 --> 01:04:25.590
And I was.

01:04:25.590 --> 01:04:30.177
Yes, you guys went shopping for football food and to run some errands.

01:04:30.177 --> 01:04:32.157
And I was working on the lawnmower.

01:04:32.731 --> 01:04:35.360
Yeah, because I had the baby, I took it in a market basket.

01:04:36.070 --> 01:04:48.135
Matt Perkins Ledgeway Farm gave us a lawnmower, which has been absolutely great, and I managed to break part of the lawnmower Okay, but it was our lawn, not you.

01:04:48.771 --> 01:04:49.353
In my defense.

01:04:49.353 --> 01:04:51.559
It's a metal bracket.

01:04:51.559 --> 01:05:00.559
It's like an idler pulley bracket that was previously broken and welded Okay, but my lawn is rather lumpy in areas, areas fractured.

01:05:00.559 --> 01:05:01.771
The weld broke that off.

01:05:01.771 --> 01:05:02.634
Had to order the parts.

01:05:02.634 --> 01:05:09.177
The parts arrive when I was at some fair and I'm now getting the opportunity to put the lawnmower back together.

01:05:09.177 --> 01:05:12.791
So I'm in the garage working on the mower just doing man stuff.

01:05:13.172 --> 01:05:13.353
Right.

01:05:13.434 --> 01:05:17.583
Okay, I've got TV on in the garage listening to football.

01:05:17.583 --> 01:05:19.536
I'm working on the mower.

01:05:19.536 --> 01:05:25.557
One of my best friends on the planet, dave, texts me and says hey yo, you see the Dak Prescott news.

01:05:25.557 --> 01:05:27.565
I flip it over, you're kidding me.

01:05:27.565 --> 01:05:29.452
Dak's back with the Cowboys.

01:05:29.452 --> 01:05:32.442
Four years, biggest NFL contract in history.

01:05:32.442 --> 01:05:33.815
This is all adding up.

01:05:33.815 --> 01:05:35.275
I put the mower together.

01:05:35.275 --> 01:05:37.032
I push it outside First turn.

01:05:37.032 --> 01:05:37.896
She fires up.

01:05:37.896 --> 01:05:41.251
Okay, everything the mower together.

01:05:41.251 --> 01:05:41.954
I push it outside First turn.

01:05:41.954 --> 01:05:42.396
She fires up.

01:05:42.396 --> 01:05:42.635
Okay.

01:05:42.635 --> 01:05:43.940
Everything on that mower is running nice and smoothly.

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Things are great.

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I went out there and I mowed my lawn.

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You sure did.

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My own lawn for about four hours, just cruising around mowing, shooting grass at the horse.

01:05:55.264 --> 01:06:07.237
He's running up and down the fence with me and I'm just doing stuff that, like this, is what my dad would do Like my dad, you know, working on a mower and outside doing these things and and feeling like man.

01:06:07.237 --> 01:06:10.608
This I'm even wearing, like my dad, new balance.

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You know what I mean?

01:06:11.510 --> 01:06:14.695
I was going to go over and crack a beer.

01:06:14.695 --> 01:06:17.061
That was so, so special of a moment.

01:06:18.103 --> 01:06:34.083
So I'm riding around on the mower, I mow my freaking lawn, I come inside, I take a shower, I make buffalo chicken dip, I sit on the couch, I hold my beautiful one week old baby and I watch the dallas cowboys win the first game of the year.

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It's the little things in life, dude but what was she wearing?

01:06:39.400 --> 01:06:40.402
I put her in something.

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She was wearing a dallas cowboys onesie it was a fingerprint yeah, dna yeah dna and I was wearing my dad prescott jersey you have a picture of it.

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You're gonna use the little things, dude, like I was mowing the lawn, being like I can't even believe that I'm mowing my fucking lawn and I'm about to go sit inside and watch football with my kid.

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Like it's weird, man, Just like you said, when we first got together, this wasn't a possibility, this wasn't something I ever thought of.

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So for it to actually happen, for me to actually be enjoying it and then living it and then having all these cool things happen on the same day, like I just I don't know man, it was uh, it was special, it was important, I mean, first off, I want to thank Matt Perkins for giving me that lawnmower and giving me the opportunity to uh check this off my list and have one of the greatest days that I can.

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I can remember no-transcript.

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Important to me right now is mowing the lawn so I can get back on the couch, hold my baby and watch my football game that's it.

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That's all I cared about, and that to me was tremendous.

01:08:02.670 --> 01:08:03.612
It was a well-rounded Sunday.

01:08:03.632 --> 01:08:04.394
You ain't kidding, dude.

01:08:04.474 --> 01:08:06.760
I got projects done, you got projects done.

01:08:06.760 --> 01:08:07.943
It worked out.

01:08:10.277 --> 01:08:12.913
Man, what a time to be alive.

01:08:12.932 --> 01:08:14.538
She's over here living her best life.

01:08:14.737 --> 01:08:16.222
Ten toes up, she is too.

01:08:16.222 --> 01:08:20.159
Ten toes up, oh man.

01:08:20.159 --> 01:08:25.747
Well, I don't know if we've covered what we're supposed to cover, but I don't really know either.

01:08:26.650 --> 01:08:27.753
You got the show notes.

01:08:28.497 --> 01:08:29.801
I don't have any notes, that's the problem.

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I have a napkin right here that I either I don't even know what's on this.

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That's the dangerous thing.

01:08:36.478 --> 01:08:37.451
Okay, well-.

01:08:37.470 --> 01:08:37.972
That's a dangerous thing.

01:08:37.972 --> 01:08:39.538
Okay Well, it's soggy enough to be a wet wipe?

01:08:39.538 --> 01:08:42.234
I don't think it is.

01:08:42.234 --> 01:08:44.114
I think it's a napkin.

01:08:44.114 --> 01:08:49.421
You get to a point you know you're officially a dad, when you're willing just to touch anything and smell anything.

01:08:49.440 --> 01:08:50.103
Sniff things.

01:08:50.529 --> 01:08:50.831
Earlier.

01:08:50.831 --> 01:08:52.757
We were walking by and you're like did the baby throw up?

01:08:52.757 --> 01:08:53.319
Is that the dog?

01:08:53.751 --> 01:08:54.675
And I put my hand in it.

01:08:54.675 --> 01:08:57.498
No, you put your toe in it and I was like I know it's throw up.

01:08:57.498 --> 01:08:59.261
I just don't know who threw up.

01:08:59.681 --> 01:09:00.582
And I was already into it, did you?

01:09:00.604 --> 01:09:02.046
just pick up the throw up with that.

01:09:02.590 --> 01:09:03.774
No, I think I threw that one away.

01:09:03.793 --> 01:09:04.595
I don't think you did.

01:09:05.720 --> 01:09:14.511
When your kid projectile poops towards you, you know, and when you're holding her like she could sit in the palm of my hand.

01:09:14.511 --> 01:09:20.376
She's sitting in my hand like a swing set and I'm feeding her like a baby bird with a bottle.

01:09:20.376 --> 01:09:26.541
I'm not regurgitating or anything, but I'm feeding her, nourishing her, to health right, just raising this little sapling into a tree.

01:09:26.541 --> 01:09:31.645
And while I'm doing that I'm saying and remember in this situation she had been fussing.

01:09:31.645 --> 01:09:34.528
Okay, last thing, I'm just getting her to calm down.

01:09:34.528 --> 01:09:36.591
I pull this bottle away.

01:09:36.591 --> 01:09:37.895
It's end, all be all, okay.

01:09:38.516 --> 01:09:41.203
She like lip locks onto it yeah.

01:09:41.730 --> 01:09:42.715
And she'll lose her mind.

01:09:42.715 --> 01:09:52.818
So I'm holding her in my little swing set hand here and all of a sudden I feel my hand pooling up with water, AKA my child's pee.

01:09:52.818 --> 01:09:59.019
She fills my hand up with wee wee and then my belly is getting soaked in it.

01:09:59.019 --> 01:09:59.380
And what did I do?

01:09:59.380 --> 01:10:01.287
Oh my God, she's pissing in my hand, up with wee-wee, and then my belly is getting soaked in it.

01:10:01.287 --> 01:10:01.649
And what did I do?

01:10:01.649 --> 01:10:03.134
Oh my God, she's pissing in my hand.

01:10:03.134 --> 01:10:04.057
But what does dad do?

01:10:04.057 --> 01:10:06.895
Just keeps on feeding her.

01:10:06.895 --> 01:10:08.676
This is the last thing I'm going to do.

01:10:08.676 --> 01:10:10.875
At that point I said hey, man, I'm already wet.

01:10:10.875 --> 01:10:13.122
Okay, this is what it is.

01:10:14.109 --> 01:10:18.497
This child's going to eat, because I'm not going to listen to her scream and then be pissed on at the same time.

01:10:19.059 --> 01:10:20.341
I wasn't even here for this.

01:10:21.042 --> 01:10:22.304
Well, when you got up, I was covered in.

01:10:22.304 --> 01:10:24.195
When I got up, I showed you I was covered in piss, I know.

01:10:25.240 --> 01:10:28.453
And then we had to change her, and then she peed again on the changing table.

01:10:28.493 --> 01:10:32.033
She peed so much it was shooting out the side of the diaper just filling my hand up.

01:10:32.474 --> 01:10:40.819
It was like I spilled a glass of hot tea when you cross that level in life.

01:10:40.819 --> 01:10:52.414
Now I'm that weird old guy that just picks up wet napkins and sniffs them and doesn't know what the hell's going on, puts his big toe in throw up, puts his nose into a diaper that looks like fucking Grey Poupon mustard.

01:10:52.414 --> 01:10:54.832
I always was like man.

01:10:54.832 --> 01:10:58.532
Dads are really weird when they're eating all this gross stuff their kids eat.

01:10:58.532 --> 01:11:01.795
I said it the other day I don't know what I was eating, but I was like you know what?

01:11:01.795 --> 01:11:04.037
I started finishing everybody else's meals.

01:11:04.137 --> 01:11:08.462
Yeah, you're finishing my cereal, which is weird man that's.

01:11:08.561 --> 01:11:12.386
One thing you don't share is cereal dude Like somebody else's soggy ass cereal.

01:11:12.405 --> 01:11:13.407
No, it wasn't soggy.

01:11:13.407 --> 01:11:15.511
Yeah, it was soggy.

01:11:15.511 --> 01:11:16.273
No, it wasn't Cinnamon Toast.

01:11:16.313 --> 01:11:17.255
Crunch it was soggy?

01:11:17.255 --> 01:11:19.099
No, it wasn't, it was to me.

01:11:19.199 --> 01:11:21.024
And it wasn't even Cinnamon Toast Crunch.

01:11:21.024 --> 01:11:29.618
I literally had just poured it in the bowl thinking that I wanted more, and it was Cinnamon Cheerios, cinnamon Apple Cheerios.

01:11:29.637 --> 01:11:30.422
I'll tell you right now.

01:11:30.422 --> 01:11:34.578
You even said, when I can't even identify what cereal it is, that means it's gone.

01:11:34.578 --> 01:11:35.019
You know.

01:11:35.019 --> 01:11:36.141
No, the last.

01:11:36.141 --> 01:11:39.163
You know, the last thing you want to share with somebody is cereal that's on the list of.

01:11:39.163 --> 01:11:41.725
Like, hey, man, shit, I don't offer to share to somebody cereal.

01:11:41.725 --> 01:11:45.346
Okay, that's like all backwashed milk and shit, shit's all soggy.

01:11:45.346 --> 01:11:49.271
Everybody has a different opinion of how much milk should be added to the cereal.

01:11:49.271 --> 01:11:50.377
Like nobody agrees on it.

01:11:50.377 --> 01:11:52.444
You know, that's the last thing.

01:11:52.444 --> 01:11:57.519
But I said to you, I looked right in the eyes and I said, well, I gotta get used to finishing food that I don't want to eat.

01:11:57.519 --> 01:11:59.622
So here we go, because kids always do that.

01:11:59.622 --> 01:12:02.770
They come over with like a chicken nugget they've been sucking on for three hours.

01:12:02.770 --> 01:12:06.157
That's got dog hair on it and they're like oh, dad, num, num, num, num.

01:12:06.369 --> 01:12:10.622
And then you do see these crazy dads just eat it, you know.

01:12:11.109 --> 01:12:13.993
That's like a whole different level of like fear factor.

01:12:13.993 --> 01:12:17.457
They should have a dad's version fear factor of like these kids offering you.

01:12:17.476 --> 01:12:19.779
I'm gearing up for it by eating soggy cereal and shit.

01:12:19.779 --> 01:12:20.820
Dude, I'm getting there.

01:12:21.721 --> 01:12:24.685
I asked you the other day if you wanted me to start backwashing into your soda.

01:12:25.426 --> 01:12:26.631
And I said well, I've already been doing it.

01:12:28.377 --> 01:12:31.610
It's true, because you backwash into mine all the time, oh my God.

01:12:31.610 --> 01:12:35.273
It's all the stuff that happens.

01:12:35.273 --> 01:12:36.372
That happens.

01:12:37.092 --> 01:12:42.155
Well, hopefully there's been something beneficial in here for someone you know.

01:12:42.195 --> 01:12:46.417
Hopefully we didn't just ramble on because we're overtired.

01:12:47.578 --> 01:12:48.297
That is possible.

01:12:48.297 --> 01:12:57.641
Let's see if we can finish this podcast off and get it edited and posted sometime before the day is over.

01:12:57.641 --> 01:13:01.644
So that means I got about an hour to get this done.

01:13:01.984 --> 01:13:02.984
Yep, all right.

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Okay.

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With that in mind, thank you for supporting our American dream.

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Now go wash your fucking hands you filthy savage.

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That's it, and that's all Biggie Smalls.

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