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And just like that we're back home.
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The biggest event of the year is in the rear view and we are ready to share it all with you the highs, the lows.
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Just how did it go?
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You're itching to know, so let's start the show.
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Let me tell you something Everybody struggles.
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The difference is some people choose to go through it and some choose to grow through it.
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The choice is completely yours.
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Which one you choose will have a very profound effect on the way you live your life.
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If you find strength in the struggle, then this podcast is for you.
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Do you have a relationship that is comfortable with uncomfortable conversations?
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Uncomfortable conversations challenge you, humble you and they build you.
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When you sprinkle a little time and distance on it, it all makes sense.
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On it, it all makes sense.
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Most disagreements, they stem from our own insecurities.
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You are right where you need to be.
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Ooh, ooh, ooh ooh.
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What it?
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do what it do hey well done over there.
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Way to chime in.
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The funny thing is I didn't see you speaking, but I heard it in my headset.
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You just tuned right in.
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You got me.
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You got me there.
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Welcome to Share the Struggle Podcast, episode 2-2-2.
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2-2-2.
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That's an angel number.
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Oh, is it now.
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Mm-hmm Sure is.
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Makes a lot of sense, because you're holding that little angel over there.
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Yuck, didn't you say that?
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I hate that actually.
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That's a nick for you.
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It's weird, y'all People.
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Here's a confession.
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All right, let's start the show with a confession.
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And this is the type of confession that might actually annoy some folks.
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I mean it could.
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It could annoy some people.
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I apologize if it does, but my wife has this thing she calls icks.
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I didn't make it up, it's a trend.
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It's a trend.
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It's a trend.
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No, it's a trend.
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What you heard on the TikTok or something, it's a trend.
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No, all the kids are saying it.
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You feel like some kind of trendsetter All right, I'll take credit for it.
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You always say that's an ick.
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For me, when you say it like that, saying it like that is actually an ick.
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You know, what I mean.
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Does that make sense, I guess?
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Anyway what's your ick?
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To clarify for all the folks out there that don't know what the hell we're talking about.
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That's like something that's just a ew icky annoys me bothers me ridiculous, can't handle it, can't stand it, whatever varying degree of discomfort you want to place on it.
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That's what the ick is.
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Cringy.
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Cringe, so cringe, kids these days.
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Man, it's ridiculous.
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Just think about it.
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We're gonna be learning all these new words from paisley someday imagine what the vocab is going to be by then there.
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There's a trend going on in tiktok right now and it's like millennials and, uh, the kids are now called alpha gen, alpha, which is ridiculous because there.
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Ridiculous because there ain't nobody raising alphas these days.
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No.
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I mean, that was a hope and a prayer in itself, right?
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there.
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Yeah, we're not even raising the alphabet, no, they don't know it.
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They're shortening it and turning words into like ick.
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Yeah, and there's like a section in there like L-M-N-O-P.
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They're not even saying like you can't even like sing it anymore.
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It's like L-M-N-O-N-P.
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What, yeah, yeah, come on.
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That's not a real thing.
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I'm serious.
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It's all over TikTok.
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They don't even sing the alphabet anymore.
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Like that L-M-N-O-P section, it's like it's a real thing thing.
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So you can pull over drunk driving.
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And then you have to do your alphabet backwards.
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You gotta go P and N.
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Yes, o, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
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P and O, and I can't do that.
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It's over anyways so.
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I showed my character with that little.
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So you're ick.
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Oh, Alright.
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People Left hand on the Cabela's catalog.
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Eye to the sky.
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Beady little eyes to the sky.
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Mm-hmm.
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The truth from the sky.
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You ready, mm-hmm?
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Here's my full frontal confessional.
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Your full frontal lobe.
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Yeah, go for it.
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It kind of weirds me out, it grosses me out and it makes me feel uncomfortable when someone calls a baby a little angel.
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Mm-hmm, uncomfortable when someone calls a baby a little angel.
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Yeah, I get it.
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It's a completely different thing for me, for the people listening, if they're not getting it, my image of an angel is like Wings in a halo.
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Wings in a halo yeah, somebody from the other side.
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Yeah.
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That guiding angel, that spirit in the sky, okay, that guiding angel, that spirit in the sky, okay.
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When I'm thinking about an angel, I think of something that has moved on wings and a halo.
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I wish that was my image of an angel.
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Well, yours is a whole other layer of discomfort, because that's your.
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Mine's a whole other ick.
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We're not getting into that.
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So it's funny because when I said I had this confession with you about I don't like it people call the baby angel, and you were like, oh, me either.
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And yours was like, because your um birth carrier carrier or whatever you want to go with there.
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That's her given name and so that weirds you out, freaks you out, creeps you out.
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But for me, when I hear that word, that word, it resonates with me as a spiritual thing and I don't like to make the connections.
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When you're talking about a baby, you know what I mean.
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That's one of the most depressing things in life.
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Yeah, just putting it out there.
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For a lot of people, here's the thing I know they all mean.
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Well, there's nobody saying, oh my God, she's a beautiful little angel.
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That means what I'm hearing and feeling.
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You know what I mean.
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Yeah, you just don't want to put that, juju.
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Yeah, I don't take it out on anybody, but for me.
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It's just one of those things where I'm like eek, you know what I mean.
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So, speaking of angels, do you want to know what the 222 angel number?
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is All right, hit me with it.
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I'm going to have Okay, so 2-2-2 is related to balance Relevated.
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Wow, who's drunk?
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today?
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I don't think that's the word 2-2-2 is related to balance, harmony and trust.
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It inspires you to commit to your life's purpose, Start making better choices and trust in your skills to succeed in life.
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Rather interesting, considering the fact that the only time that my eyeballs have been open today, I've either been paying bills or looking for new events for the business and discussing what we can actually what we feel comfortable gambling on.
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Not true.
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You were holding the baby quite a bit today.
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Well, that's what I mean, but she made me sleep every time I did it.
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Yeah, you guys did fall asleep a few times.
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Bro, when you come out of the fair and you just do what we just did, I go into shutdown mode for two days.
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Yeah, reset.
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I'm hopefully, I'm really hopeful that tomorrow I come out of the funk.
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But you hit factory reset on yourself and your life when you come out of there, when you put as much into it as we put into it.
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I mean the lead up to it is ridiculous.
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Yeah, and we also threw a baby in the mix.
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I mean I was working till basically 1, 2 in the morning every night getting ready for the fair, and then you factor in her feedings between, actually, which we'll put this out there.
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Before we left for the fair she was eating at 2.30.
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She was eating at 3 something, and then she was getting up and eating between 5 and 6.
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And then we'd try to sleep a little bit more and then she'd get up and eat and then, kind of be up like what seven, eight o'clock whatever so there was multiple times that we were getting up through the night, so that was kind of factoring into it.
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What I am going to give the freiburg fair all the credit in the world for is adjusting little paisley's days and nights hey, I worked on it when I came home no, I know you did, but I'm just saying like I think that we made a lot of progress just by her being at the fair, forcing us all to be outside so much all the fresh air, the commotion, the noise oh yeah I think that it all helped her to stay up.
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I mean, she slept through the fair anyways, let's be honest.
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But now she really only gets up twice a night, until the night we would get ready to come home then that all went to hell.
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Yeah, there's still only three times just felt like a lot because we, well, we, were exhausted.
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Our camper until noontime or so but we also didn't get to bed until 2 30 that night before anyway yeah, that leads into why we've been sleeping for two days.
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Uh, the fair ends at nine o'clock on Sunday, so it opens at.
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You know you open your doors at 9.
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So you're down there around 8-ish and then you're open until 9 at night.
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And at this point you've been going strong for over a week and fair closes at 9.
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And then I started packing at 9.
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You went back to camp, took care, took care of paisley for a little bit, got her comfortable and settled in, and then came back and we packed.
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We didn't finish packing up our vendor site until after two in the morning and then we went back to camp and tried to feed her and put her down.
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But we knew in the morning we didn't have to go back down and do any kind of clean up or site removal stuff.
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We had already done it.
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So we just decided to sleep in at camp, which I thought was a benefit.
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But, um, I definitely, we definitely definitely stayed there way longer than we ever have yeah, we definitely did, but we also have a new element of
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supplies for sure.
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The?
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Um disappointing thing, and I'm going to I'll throw out a disappointment to start the to start the show is um.
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While we were there, we were trying to navigate, pulling off all the logistics on our next event, because we're scheduled to be leaving on thursday for mohegan sun in connecticut and we were going there to support tommy and his tattoo convention.
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He?
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Um made us a sweet deal in Connecticut and we were going there to support Tommy and his tattoo convention.
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He made us a sweet deal to be there and we were looking forward to being there this weekend.
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But a few things went into not making this work.
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By the time we found out we were going to this event, we had lost all the promo codes for the hotels and the prices of hotels were north of $1,000 for two and a half star hotels basically, which, by the time you factor in getting down there, the cost of your hotel, the cost of your space.
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We were going to be hard pressed to make our money back and we had such an amazing event at the Freiburg Fair that we are sold out of a lot of things, lot of things.
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So, in order to get our designs in in time, our apparel in in time, just based off of shipping and then getting things ready to rock and roll and to get to the event.
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We knew that we would be pressing our luck and then getting there shorthanded and we did not realize there was a little Wayne concert going on at Mohegan Sun, so all the hotels we were looking at kind of disappeared and then the cost of us being there just continued to climb and we just kept looking at the clock and trying to figure it out.
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We were down to minutes on whether we could make this work and we just had to decide for the, you know, for the, the best decision for the business and for us was to not go because we were going to put ourselves in a bad position to be there just to say we were there, you know, and that was a real that was a real wiener kick, I'll be honest right in the penis.
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The penis.
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I don't know, we were so overtired last night.
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The word penis came up and I thought that you said it like I don't even remember.
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I'm sorry, I can't remember how it?
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Went, but I was like something about the penis.
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I don't know.
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I was, we were way overtired.
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I didn't remember how it went, but I was like penis it's something about the penis?
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I don't know we were way overtired.
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I didn't even say it like that.
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Oh, you did you struck me and I said keep it up and I'm going to punch you in the penis.
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And you thought that the word penis was so strange.
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You just kept saying it.
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Yeah, well, a lot of things happen when you're overtired.
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Like you come up with things like emotional support, velcro you know what I mean.
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Yes, that is correct, because we were packing up the tent and you were throwing my Velcro around and I said, hey, it's my emotional support, velcro.
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You better take that with me, you know.
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Yeah, I do remember, because I'm just hanging on like the little fibers on Velcro.
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You know what I'm saying.
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Yes.
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There's the bristly, rough side of me and then there's the soft, fuzzy side and the two of us are just stuck together and we're just holding on to our little threads and fibers.
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It's an emotional support.
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Velcro no.
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Yeah.
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You thought it was a lot funnier on Sunday I did Now.
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You don't even crack a smile.
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I thought it was hilarious.
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He didn't show it, that's for sure.
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Well, the reality of backing out of an event, coming off of a very successful event, kind of puts a negative taste in your mouth about things.
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Um, we have worked really hard to develop a good relationship with, with tommy and those tattoo conventions and I'm still nervous that I've kind of burned a bridge of having to back out on something after somebody was really just bending over to do me a favor to be there.
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But I really thought that we were making a bad business decision and I was putting our family in a bad position by taking this gig.
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So I'm hoping that it's a learning lesson and a growing opportunity for me to have to realize like, hey, man, you have to say no to this.
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Like you've weighed out all the pros and cons.
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You've been doing this for a while and I think one of the reasons why it took so long to do it is I continued to weigh the options out, hoping we could find the best solution, and that something, would you know, smack us in the face to say like, okay, this will work.
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This will do it.
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But the more we analyzed it, the more we realized that it wasn't going to be a good decision for us.
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But the first thing we've done is really start to look at what we can do to finish this year off.
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We are not at the number that I want to see our business at for the year and I'm just highly motivated to get to that original goal I set for this business when we first started.
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I think it's within sight and I really want to make sure that we get there.
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Traditionally, we come out of the Freiburg Fair and we shut it down, like after the fair, I take a break, I sleep, I do whatever, and then we get into yard work, we get into barn work, farm work, we.
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And then we get into yard work, we get into barn work, farm work, we get into doing all those things getting ready for the winter, and we've been talking about it today.
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We have a lot of projects to do and I like to tackle a lot of those.
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But I also know that the business is dependent on us continuing to move forward, to march forward.
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So we're going to take some time off here and there, but we're going to keep this train a-rocking and rolling.
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We're going to keep this train a-rockin' and a-rollin', yeah, so if?
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you're in the New England area and know of something Redneck approved or something you think that the Loud Brown American would be a good fit for, shoot us a message, let us know.
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We'd definitely be interested in checking it out and seeing if something that we can make happen.
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We've been looking into several different avenues Northern Maine I've explored all the way to Pennsylvania.
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We're looking at something to do to challenge the business, but we're looking for the right opportunity.
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Kind of factoring in cost and risk and all those things.
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We've looked at the driveway 603.
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Yeah, we're checking all kinds of things.
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We're going at what?
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The driveway 603.
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Yeah, we're checking all kinds of things we're going to see what we can.
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Christmas fairs.
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There's a couple of different Christmas things that we might find ourselves in that we've never done before.
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We're looking and exploring all avenues because we want to continue this positive ball that we have built here.
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We want to get this snowball effect rolling into the wintertime.
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I don't want to see the business slow down.
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We do have some more custom projects to do shortly.
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I've really been toying around with the idea of next year not welcoming any new clients when it comes to custom orders.
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I've been kind of toying around with the idea of closing that and then just I don't know, it's hard.
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It's hard, it's hard to do because you you think about like guaranteed money up front.
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You know what I mean.
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Like, hey, I know I can pay the bills with this and when I look at how much we've we've made and how much the business, how much it's helped the business to do custom accounts, it's hard to say no to them.
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But I also know that doing them all the time holds our business back and then having to tell somebody that you're looking at doing custom accounts with that you just can't do it in time.
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Part of that frustration itself is, you know, makes it not worth it if that makes sense.
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You know what I mean, like you're disappointing people Like I have customers that have been trying to do business with me for three, four months and if I do business with them these new clients, new logos if I stop what I'm doing, then I know I'm hindering our business.